Idk what to do

He also told me im a waste of a person because im a sahm...

If my partner ever said that to me, I'd kick his arse out the door or pack a bag, the kids, and leave myself. Please know that you don't deserve this and you do not have to tolerate this behaviour. Your boys should not be subjected to this kind of behaviour either. Your husband is an AH.

I just wanna say I’m sorry you’re going through this. I wouldn’t want to look at my husband or talk to him either after this. Is this the first time this has happened or is this an ongoing occurrence? Because the way he is speaking to you he clearly has no respect for you as a wife or a mother. I think depending how long this has been going on is what would impact my decision on what to do.

Let me tell you something. He may feel big and bold saying some words, but the fact is those boys are attached to you and as a sahm it can be difficult to find even 10 minutes some days without someone climbing of hitting or just touching and it can be overwhelming. Be constantly overstimulated while still keeping the home together? That’s an impossible task you make possible and the fact is he couldn’t do it himself. You are not a waste of space. You are a fucking super hero of not to him, then timber to those boys you always will be. I’ve hit this road block before and know it can make for an uneasy bridge to walk; if you need anyone to vent to or talk this through feel free to pm me!

A hard spot to be in. Especially these words he threw at you. Sounds like there is a severe lack of respect for you and deep resentment that has been seething in both of you. If you still believe in fixing this marriage (it’s a very personal decision and is up to you both), I’d suggest a deep talk soul to soul with no distractions. After that, I’d put a serious effort in finding a good job that pays well and let him figure out the good quality child care. Maybe it will help to start growing some respect for you. There is no marriage without respect that goes both ways.

@Olga I work at a daycare, but im on maternity leave until September.. (they are opening an infant center for baby's under 1) I've asked countless times if he was okay with it and if he wanted me to find something in the meantime but hes always said it's fine and to just take care of the babies and house til then.. im just at a loss of what he wants

Wow how dare he talk so disrespectful to u when u r taking care of babies, it really annoys me when sahm role is judged soo much. I’ve been a sahm and a working mum and they are both hard, even harder when u have non-existent help or support from the husband. Maybe it’s time for a proper talk and go from there but ur worth more than this treatment u r getting.

girl leave his ass that bitch wouldn't last a week in your shoes he wouldn't make it, ur a amazing as a mother and we're so proud of u for doing what u do but hun don't let NO ONE LET ALONE A MAN TELL U UR A BAD MOM

I think you should decide what you wanna do stay in this marriage or not. I say that because I’m sure there’s a reason you married him. I’m sure it wasn’t always like this, and if you decide to stay in this marriage, then I think you guys should look at a couple counseling.

I would ask yourself would you want your boys treating their girlfriends/wives like this or been treated like this. if not then you need to leave as you need to set the example.

Girl the next freaking day he has off you paci you a bag and leave him to care for those kids and you take you a break. To speak to you that way is NOT ok. And BOUNDERIES have to be set even with your “partners” I’m so sorry. And if you such a waste he can figure shit out with those two babies for 48 hours.

I think it depends if this is a regular occurrence or a one off. One off it can probably be talked about and hopefully peace reached. If this is a recurrent thing then it isn’t going to change and he isn’t worth your time. The lack of respect of your role doesn’t bode well either…