Dilemma 🫠 (picky eating)

I work 4 days a week. My husband doesn’t start work until 2:30pm which means she is his responsibility until then, and then she’s in child minding until 6:30pm ish. Our daughter has always been a picky eater but somehow when she’s with me she eats somewhat well, I will have my way of getting her to eat however the days my husband has her she barely eats anything like near to nothing. I’ve given him loads of advice, tips and tricks on what works for me and he’s still unable to get her to have anything and he says he tried and then drops her off to the childminders hungry 😞 I really don’t know what to do at this point, mum guilt is at its peak already with me going back into work but also not feeling like I can fully rely on my husband to pick up the pieces at home. Part of me wants to quit working to go back to being a SAHM like before but right now financially we need the extra money. I want to be able to just fully put my trust into my husband to do his part and he probably is trying but every-time I ask if she’s eaten anything, it’s the same answer. I wonder if my 2 year old associates meal times with me as I’ve always successfully gotten her to eat a decent amount herself. Or maybe my husband is not putting enough effort into making meal time as fun as I do. Just torn on what to do because the last thing I want is to send her anywhere hungry. Anyone got any advice for me? Thank you in advance ❤️

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I need your tips...my daughter eats like two bites of whatever I make no matter what it is.

As long as he is offering her food I wouldn’t worry. She won’t starve herself

He's offering food. She just isn't eating it. I noticed my wife has that issue and it's because our daughter always wants to play and they have their own ways of hanging out. So she will graze but even then, not really. But then she comes by me and home girl will eat a half a sandwich, a mandarin, and a half cup of like blueberries 🤣. I'm sure it isn't that he's just not feeding her. Shes 2. If shes hungry shes going to eat. She'll ask for food in some form if she isn't saying "im hungry" yet yk? I'd ask what it is he's doing during meal times and not come from a place of "i want to fully trust your feeding her but-" and more like "i know how hard it can be to feed her, especially since shes 2. I was wondering what your meal time routines look like so that we can see how we can maybe change some things around so shes not asking for food immediately at daycare." Yk?

Spend time on weekends preparing her meals together. Take turns preparing and serving her plates. He can learn from you and you can see what he's doing, how its different from what you're doing, and whether there are any major issues you need to address. You can also give him feedback. Maybe your daughter would like a special new set of dishes she uses with daddy so she breaks old associations and starts fresh. Maybe she'd like a table that's her size, or needs more time to eat before leaving for daycare. Maybe she needs a different afternoon routine, or different food options. Lots to try here. Stick with it and give her some more time to adjust.

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