Sorry older child question...
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Good god that is intense! I don’t think you are silly. They are still so little at 6. I don’t have a 6yo but I would not be happy with all of that just because of the secrecy and intensity on the day . However, as a poor comparison, I am heavily involved with Girlguides and Scouts and they do take 6yos out on sleepovers and camp for 1-2 days on the middle of nowhere. No parents , full days etc BUT, these are with adults the children know well, and we as the leaders do the opposite of secrecy and inform the parents of every single detail, (often for 6-9m prior) for exactly the reason/feelings above. I’m second guessing sending my 3yo to drama class now!
@Michelle unfortunately not because they aren't allowing anyone backstage unless had their name down and if you decide to be back stage, you have to be there for the duration of the show and then not able to watch the show! So they have a lot of difficult rules. They said it's safeguarding to control who is coming and going backstage
@Anna thanks, this is what I mean, I think the owner is being really ignorant to parents feelings, some rehearsals have been 4 hours like 11-2 and they've not been allowed to take food because of allergies risk! But they are allowed to today as long as no nuts so why not on the other days!? My daughter has a rubber bracelet with our phone numbers on from holiday and I feel like popping that in her bag so she can ask another adult or older kid with a phone to call me if she needs to. It just unsettles me as well that there are older kids including boys and who is going to go the toilet with her and help her get changed? I don't even think dbs means that much because it doesn't necessarily mean that people are good, it could mean that they just haven't been caught yet! I'm so stressed 😫 I don't want to leave her
It’s so hard, I totally feel you. I do leave my little ones for 8 hours at nursery with a full programme of activities but that’s so different. Idk, I think they are prob v experienced professionals and she will be fine and she will remember it. But YOU won’t if you say you are so anxious and YOU matter too. Give the head person a call (not the teacher but the Big Boss and see if they reassure you. If they don’t , and you still feel the same don’t take her. Hve a lovely day with her instead. It’s your little girl. She will feel you are anxious too (my boy always does, even if it’s something exciting for him, he can tell I’m stressed ) . Prob not what others would advise though but I feel I’d have posted this too if i were you, I’m so anxious with this stuff!
My boy is also 6 and I would not feel comfortable with that at all! I don’t even like him going to drop and go parties unless I know the party family really well! 9-5:30 is a really long day especially after a week at school! Id be telling them your not comfortable nor do you think your child will cope with the long day and could you drop her later as you feel it would be in the best interest of everyone x
Thanks everyone, I've spoken to another mum who feels the same and contacted the owner (she is a miserable woman at the best of times) and she said if she's upset she'll let her know. I spoke to my daughter and she was really excited to go, I tried not to worry her but explained gently that it would be a long day and what to expect and that it was ok if she didn't want to do it could ask the teachers to call me and she was just dead chill and ok about it 🤷🏼♀️ she's done a 4 hour rehearsal there at theatre before so she must feel ok? I didn't want to ruin it for her so I've dropped her off at 9 to go in with her friend 😫 then I sat outside for 40 mins just in case 🤦🏼♀️ it pained me to drive away but I guess they'll need a rehearsal this morning, then lunch at 12 and doors open at 1:30 so I get it 🫤 but yeah she's not doing it again! Thanks for making me feel not crazy, I do feel guilty now that I've dropped her off but she's worked hard and looking forward to it that she would have been devastated
Ahhh bless you, I wouldn't feel comfortable with that lay out at all. Let us know how it went xx
@Ruth thank you, the actual show was a lot of dancers and it went on for 3 hours! 🥴 Only for her group to do one 5 min performance! I was pretty annoyed about that especially because we couldn't leave with our kids once they were done so all that time whilst the others were on, she would have been bored backstage! They said strictly no camera or videos! (This is because they were recording and selling it for £20 once edited!!) So I thought sod that and sneaked a quick clip 🤣 £20 to watch hours of other kids! Pfft. However, she loved it and can't wait for the next one! 😳 I was hoping she'd be bored and hate and want to quit ha ha. So my plan B is to encourage her to take up a dance class as well (she's recently stopped gymnastics so maybe acro dance) because then at least if she does dance she'll have more stage time and then I won't mind paying the £20 for the video. She said she couldn't see us because it was too dark even though we were very front row so I thought in that case, I may as well of
Volunteered to be backstage then at least I'd have reassurance she's ok and I'll have the video to watch after. I'm sure my MIL or other family might go to watch again so there are people in the audience for her as well. (My husband has to stay at home with our son because no way he'd sit through it🤣) So yeah, she was ok, I was mostly ok but looks like I'm stuck with it lol. I may feed back to the staff though? X
Aww no that sounds totally draining. So glad she loved it though, she's proved she's a big girl now and sometimes life is just waiting around haha 🥰
Could you ask to help out on the day? I used to be part of a dance school as a kid, and we had chaperones etc. I was quiet and my mum used to volunteer until I was a bit older and more confident.