Does anyone else’s partner only want to spend quality time with their kid when it suits them?
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I just had conversation with my husband about this. Saying how he only wants to be a father when it suits him and that whenever something doesn't go his way he goes into his game room and stays there the rest of the night like he doesn't have a wife and child. I told him bc of the way he acts I dont feel comfortable leaving our baby alone with him cause he doesn't act like he even cares about him on days. Like I went hard on him saying how I feel like he doesn't even want me or our child and that we are just a burden in his way. Had that conversation like a week ago and it was an eye opener for him and he's starting to do better at being a part of the family now. Maybe have that tough talk with him. Tell him exactly how you feel, like everything you've said in this post tell him. Maybe it'll open his eyes too. Don't go in emotional about it though cause he'll just shut down.
My boyfriend claims he hates how much working takes him away from watching our son grow up, but every time he’s off all he does is lay around on his phone. Yesterday I told him we were running errands and going to park and that he should ride with us, he didn’t have to get out but just be there physically, you know? Well he said his feet hurt and to go on without him😐 I told him before he knows it our son will be 18 and out of the house and he will have missed his whole childhood, he’s already 2🤷🏽♀️
What might help is no TV when she's awake. That's what we do other than maybe 1 10min programme. He has to find things to do with her at home that aren't TV
I just had this discussion with my husband last night. I told him that he treats me and our children like a hobby that he can pick up or drop whenever it's convenient for him, and that it isn't okay. If he was as committed to spending quality time with us as he is with his phone then things would be different. He was receptive to it though, and said he hadn't realized he was doing it and would do better.