Is this something I should be worried about?
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@Neshia, I have a kid, but I'm also a SAHM and have zero income, so he'd have to send me money for the ticket.
Besides that, did you ever get a weird feeling before? Like something just felt off?
Why did he volunteer for this trip? Was it to open up opportunities or was this something he could've sat out? I just returned from a week long work trip in CA and I live in FL and my husband had to take a week vacation to take care of our young children. I was out every evening after the conference ended with peers of different genders. Besides the time difference, I still texted when I had s chance and to let him know I was safely back in my room for the night. Was there no contact during the 9 hours? Sending you pictures throughout still seems like he was thinking about you.
I don't think you should be worried. I go away with work all the time as cabin crew and I often send photos home but it's just the sights etc. I don't think it's weird not to send photos with the people's who he is with in. That's just my perspective.
@Siyoo, he's done odd things, but they could be normal or normal to him and not a sign of anything. Like one of his friends (online only, different countries) is female, which is fine, but I found out semi recently that they talk often. I never realised that. He is weird with his phone and will barely let me touch it. At one point, he made a noise and yanked it away. He has another female friend, again fine, and seems so happy when he shows me some texts or tells me about them. Their texts are often flirty from my understanding, and she has sent him a picture of her bloody urine. It's odd. He never told me that he and his ex lived in the street next to his Dad, who we visit every few weeks. His ex still there's from my understanding. He went out one day after work and didn't contact me for hours. I had to reach out to him. He said he was at the pub and would be leaving soon. 2 hours later, I contacted him again, and he said sorry he got talking to a relative (that he was meeting for the first time)...
It might be a cultural difference, but I’d honestly call his behavior red flags especially the female friend sharing a photo of bloody urine. And the way he’s super sensitive about you touching his phone. I hope you trust your gut. Feel free to talk to me if you want.
....didn't hear from him for another few hours and then texted at like 10:30 to see what was happening but didn't hear back. I called between 11 and 12 and was like, just wanted to check you were alive. He was, but then he came home at like 12:30 and passed out twice in the shower. I'm still angry about that. He then had a work Christmas Party and was gone for 18 hours but couldn't tell me where they went. I know he was at his work at one point around midnight or later. He went out drinking last week and had to walk 40 minutes back to the flat he is staying in because apparently he couldn't get the UBER app, 1 friend was to drunk to remember his password and the other is tech illiterate. Which seems odd to me. Like again, could be all legit. All of it makes me feel some kind of way. He is autistic if that makes a difference.
@Rebecca, thank you.
based on your most recent comment, yeah it sounds sketchy
@Anjali, as I said, there was a little. He sent me the pics, and we talked about dinner, which led to other meals, and if he had a safe way home.
It sounds like he has “little moments” that wouldn’t be a big deal on their own but his little moments seem to add up to a decent amount of suspicion. The phone thing is a big red flag… I think this is worthy of exploring and having a conversation.
@Stacey 🇵🇸, as I said, it doesn't help that we aren't in a good place right now.
I would be worried. I have past experience with a cheating man and hiding his phone and not talking to me for extended periods of time they were red flags I chose to ignore because I was so in love. I’m sorry but I would definitely try to dig deeper into it.
I'm sorry, this happened to me nearly to the word and my partner cheated on me 😔 I hope that's not the case for you but honestly I'd be nipping it in the butt. You deserve better, at the least communication.
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Regardless of whats happened or hasn’t, you do not trust him. This is the issue that needs sorting/ addressing to have a chance at moving forward. You may have credible grounds not to trust him, or maybe not, either way, until you can know you can trust him, you will never be at peace i this relationship.
As soon as he is back I would have a sit down conversation re establishing boundaries clearly he does see any if he's being so friendly with other females. He needs to spend time creating that connection because it's getting lost causing those feeling of insecurity. Unfortunately just him flirting with females feels like emotional cheating even if nothing physical has happened.
@Stephani, I don't even know how friendly he was with them and if it was a mix of her male friends and female. I'm just assuming females. I'm mostly upset that he decided not to tell me for some reason, especially if it was a group of women.
Shoot if you have no kids go there ND surprise him, either you'll spice up also relationship by taking the bigger step or you'll find out if he's cheating on you.