Seeking co-parenting advice, stories, and encouragement.

How do you co-parent with a narcissist? I am honestly asking because I have no idea. The only thing I know what to do is remain as calm as I can, however I am human and it’s taking its toll on me hence why I am reaching out about this for the first time. Things have become so overwhelming complicated that I fear I will spiral if I haven’t already. He took our one year old daughter to get her ears pierced behind my back, didn’t even give me the chance to be there. How do you co-parent with someone who will do everything they can to hurt you, to steal your joy, and memories with your children. I pray for him, I make things easy for him but it’s not enough and I am drained. I have hit a wall and could really use some advice, stories, and encouragement. Thank you so much❤️

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I’m in the same situation. It’s mentally exhausting. I’m here for any advice too. Stay strong Ariana x

Hi Ariana I’m so sorry you’re going through that . I’ve been coparenting with a narcissist for the past 3 years . And I won’t say that gets easier. However you need to establish boundaries and not show any emotions with him. Narcissists feed off of reactions and knowing that they get under your skin. Don’t give him that satisfaction. I would suggest creating a coparenting schedule and plan with rules that is signed by the courts . That way if he doesn’t respect your rules he can be held in contempt of court . I would also suggest getting a family lawyer to talk to. And I would also suggest a therapist. I spoke with a therapist for a while after my relationship with my ex and it helped a lot. Also going no contact except about your child is the best solution . The less you speak to him the better . Your in for a long ride with any narcissist but especially one that you cocreated with! But you got this mama ! Be strong for yourself and your little one !!!

As Epiphany said: don't let him get under your skin. Breathe 3 or 4 times and when you get that inner peace, talk to him in a firm way and say there are some things that need to be discussed before going forward. Specially those who has a permanent effect like ears pierced. It doesn't mean that you have the final word, but that you should team up for the well being of your LO. Also only talk.about the kid. I had to say it a couple of times like: don't call when our kid is not here, and if it's not about the kid then I'm not interested so please don't call me for something else. I don't wanna know how is your day going or whatever. With all the respect. 😉👌🙏💪🏽

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