Boyfriend saying i’m selfish

I have a son who is almost 2 and a daughter of 3 month old so I’m a constantly running around after them, my boyfriend is constantly asking me to play Minecraft even if my daughter is screaming and crying so of course i go see to my daughter cos priorities yknow and he keeps calling me selfish. I have told him that of course as much as i wonna spent time with him if the kids are crying of course i am going to go see to them cos all they know is that they are sad and they want a cuddle or something like that whereas my boyfriend should understand that i have other shot to do and it is just doing my head is so just wanted to come on here and rant thats all 😂😂 since having this app as well of course I’m on it quite a bit cos i enjoy being able to talk to people who get the stress and worries of being a mother and i don’t have to justify being tired or feeling emotional all the time and anytime I’m on my phone he is like ugh you on that app again as if its like I’m sat on tinder or something talking to lads or something and its just getting on my nerves like he is jealous or something that I’m finally making friends after the friends i had stopped talking to is since having kids. I hope this all makes sense 😅 had a lot to get off my chest sorry its so long

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I also try when i can to spend as much time with him as i can like going out for walks talking to him while be plays his games on computer and stuff but its not enough unless i play Minecraft with him and its like he just doesn’t get that I’m a mother before anything else and he makes me feel guilty and like a shit girlfriend i just dunno what to do about it

...is he helping with the kids at all?

If i ask yes but its on his own terms pretty much, i could ask him “can u change the bairn” it’s like yeah one sec… and i could be waiting anywhere up to 5-10 mins so by the point he’s ready I’ve just done it myself cos why should the kids have to wait when they have dirty nappies

I don’t want to risk them getting rashes just cos it’s when he wants to do it, there are times when he takes initiative and does it himself without having to ask but its not frequent

Please don't take this the wrong way, are they his children? He needs to grow the eff up!! Games and things are what could be done once the children are in bed. During the day, it's all about the children. In the evening is when you can both focus on each other, even if you are tired. Do you have family support? Xx

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