Exact same thing happens with my husband and baby boy. Last night my husband was trying to feed him after a bath, and he would not take the bottle or stop crying. I gave it a good 10-15 min and then I took over. My husband knows that the baby is young (2 months) and usually wants to nurse. It hurts him, but I feel in a month or two things will be different. He will be able to do more with him.
I have started helping my fiance with sharing all the ways I know to calm my LO. I stand there with him helping but not taking over
Im living very similarly to you. My fiancé takes her while I go do something, she’s screaming at the top of her lungs and he gets SO stressed out to the point he yells out loud. I can’t stand to hear my baby cry because it breaks my heart so I take over after about 5-10 minutes depending on how busy I am.
This was me for a few weeks! Slowly I got my husband to hold our little girl more and more, and now in the mornings he’s able to hang with her for 2 hours no problem so I can sleep 😴. For us, I think it just took a little time for her to get adjusted to him. It also seems like it got better for us after she hit the 2.5 month mark.
I'm currently living this too. i even have to start the feeding, or she will starve. Can't leave the house without her. Honestly we have to keep handing them off, they will get used to it eventually. My husband can now hold her & hang out for 30 mins without a meltdown