why does MIL keep saying it

I have 3 kids. My oldest is 3. We've never asked her to babysit other than when I was in the hospital delivering my other 2. My husband would go get them right after I got settled into my maternity stay room. I had suggested to FIL about having a yard sale bc we both have things we want to part with. MiL chimes in well im not baby sitting..uh ok.never asked and wasn't going to...fast forward present time were hanging out at our weekly visit and my husband and I were mentioning something we want to do and MIL again says im not baby sitting..we weren't gonna ask the kids were gonna go with us they are our little side kicks we take them everywhere.. im getting annoyed so if she does it again im gonna speak up but why is she saying this

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Seems like she wants you guys to know she’s not an option as a babysitter 🥴

Idk if I am just confrontational because I would really ask her why she keeps saying that when no one asked

Also I hope she’s not saying it in front of the kids too? Like oh I’m not babysit you guys. Like that just feels very negative from her

I have a MIL from hell and from my dealings I think that she says it because she wants to feel needed but also wants to decline to do so. Like she’ll keep saying it until there’s a possible future situation where you may need her and she can say “uglh fine”

I would’ve asked after the first time….me assuming things or not knowing something or questioning something drives me crazy so I would outright ask her what she means by that. You don’t wanna babysit? Fine. I don’t think it’s the first option “she wants to babysit” otherwise she would have offered, not rejected. I think it’s her passive aggressive way of saying don’t ask her. But you’ll never know unless you ask. Because if she makes that comment one more time I might explode on her lol you’re a lot better than me 😂 I would’ve asked what? The first time.

I'd be like "never have asked, never will ask, but since you keep bringing it up, why do you feel that way towards the children?

I would say something. Does she not like them? Are they difficult? Do you two not get along? Who knows.. maybe it's sarcasm but i wouldn't like it either

@Elizabeth she has said it I front of them and kinda in that way before. Her and I have had a round before over something else so I try not to keep the peace for my husband's sake but im getting annoyed and honestly will probably call her out if it comes outta her mouth again

@Kellie she's a very difficult lady. I try to keep the peace and just ignore her weird ass comments but this one has bothered me. But I honestly will call her out if she says it again

@Becky she likes them she wants to see them weekly buys them stuff constantly and tries to spoil them with junk food. They are your typical toddlers and baby nothing too crazy though. I dont think its sarcasm bc shes not one for sarcasm. She says its very aggressively its so strange

@Elizabeth same. OP she sounds insufferable 😩 sorry you have to deal with that!

I’m all for keeping the peace but only to an extent. If you get the feeling she’s being disrespectful towards your children by saying she wouldn’t want to babysit them and insinuating negativity then it’s a wrap lol if she’s peaceful be peaceful but your kids will always remember wow mom has my back

Maybe say to her that you realise the same thing applies when your time comes.

Def the 2nd time I would have asked something like, "what is having you assume we'd ask you to watch our children? We've never asked you. We wouldn't ask you."