Partner getting easily frustrated with baby

I swiped and accidentally hit partner is the same but I meant I’d do the same

Wtf? Who gets mad at a baby for literally doing baby things?? He's acting like an immature child, not a father. He needs to grow up. I'm autistic and easily overstimulated and I've never once ever taken anything out on my baby. I always reassure him that I know he's doing his best and I'm not upset with him.

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Sometimes calmly asking "Are you okay? Why are you acting this way?" can stop someone dead in their tracks as it puts a spotlight on what they are doing and gets them to reassess their behaviour.

@Vee ooooo I like this advise! I always snap😅 but this sounds like a great approach. Thank you!

My partner was like this when my first was a newborn, he would just get so angry at things she did, sometimes something she’d done before would trigger him at a time. It took a good few weeks of holding a mirror up to him when he was angry and talking to him at the right moment for him to really get what I was saying and he immediately set to work on it. I think he probably had a bit of postpartum rage because honestly I’ve never seen him that angry before or since. I’ve also subsequently learnt some things about his own start in life that means he probably didn’t really know any different and even thought it was normal. Now he’s an incredible dad, he and my daughter are best of friends and he’s really excited for our second.

@Siobhan he wasn’t like it with our first, but this time round I definitely feel a bit of the postpartum rage so maybe he does too. My partner definitely didn’t have the best up bringing either, there was sole verbal and physical abuse from someone who he thought was his dad and a bit from his mom.

He apologised to the baby this morning and also agreed that he felt bad about last night, but said he was really tired. I told him it was 230am of course people are tired at that time, but that’s no excuse for how he acted because it’s a baby, doing baby things. Our baby is our second and she is 99% a great sleeper at night and this was the rare occasion where she didn’t want to go back to sleep so I was hoping for the extra help

Realistically babies are annoying and frustrating, lots of people feel that But he does need to learn to step out and have a breather before he gets to the point of being so annoyed to the baby.

My partner was like this when my baby was a newborn, he just found her annoying and things. He'll still tell me now he hated her as a newborn, but he loves her now and loves spending time with her now she's not an "annoying crying blob"

You did the right thing