Am I the asshole?

NTA. They aren’t the only two kids to have it at the daycare. It would be still going around whether you kept home or not.

If you only had one you would have sent them in and other parents must have sent in a child who then came down with it. I've got twins so even harder to make that decision sometimes

We were literally told by our GP to send them if they have hand foot and mouth as its so common and the symptoms don't appear until after they've contracted it so loads of kids are probably going with it anyway

@Emily, no offence, but your doctor is an idiot. Do NOT send your child to daycare with HFM. I've known children hospitalised with HFM, and it is dangerous for pregnant women and newborns. Keep sick kids home, sincerely an educator and mum.

As it is highly contagious, I absolutely would have kept my other kid home. You shouldn't feel terrible that you sent your kid to care, though.

@Hannah.. Emily is just stating NHS advice. I think the NHS probably knows better than you. I'm sure in rare cases HFM leads to hospitalisation, but it's not the norm.

@Melody and I'm stating regulations as an educator, we do not allow children with HFM at care, at least not where I am from. Just because I'm not a doctor doesn't mean I don't know what I'm talking about, and just because a doctor says something doesn't make it a fact. I was told I had a UTI, and later, results actually showed I didn't. I had a doctor tell me he couldn't read my ECG results. Doctors can be wrong and make mistakes. They aren't inphalable. I stand by what I've said.

I agree with @Hannah sometime doctors make the wrong call. Our pediatrician told us it is still contagious until the rash starts to scab. Just because it’s likely many kids will catch it doesn’t mean we should be lax about trying not to spread it. It’s not chicken pox a child can get it multiple times.

If something contagious is going around why would you purposely send your other kid to get it when one child is already come down with it you might as well. Just keep them both home. That’s crazy.

@Kristina because I’m a working mom I got a new job and don’t have the luxury of being able to take off for a week and if I get fired, my kids won’t fucking eat

It's highly contagious but is usually contagious before symptoms so a lot of nursery/childcare settings don't always say they need to stay home.

Kids get sick and honestly the other parents would have probably done the same. When you have to go to work you have to and it's just easier with one kid also.

So, who looked after your sick kid? Why are you posting if you are going to get angry at people for suggesting that yes, maybe you should have kept your other kid home?

@Hannah I didn’t ask for people to judge and mom shame. I watched my sick kid while I worked. He was attached to me this week was terrible but I would have had to call out with both of them

I don't see Kristina's response as judgemental. She is answering your post.

@Hannah lmao yes it was and rude af

I don’t think it’s bad that you sent the other child they didn’t show any symptoms. We just went through the exact same thing. One kid was sick and while I was at the doctor’s office I got called to pick up one of my twins later that afternoon my son was sick. Motherhood is no joke we are all just trying to do our best.

@Veronique thank you!

If you say so. I'm legitimately curious, but if someone had said "yes you are an arsehole, should have kept both kids at home," would you consider that rude and judgemental?

@Hannah not at all that was the question

@Hannah asking me why I would do that and telling me that’s crazy is judgmental and rude. Why are you so obsessed? It’s not even your comment weirdo

My daughter has yet to have hfm but if she was unwell I would keep her home. But my nursery states they do not have to be off with hfm.