How are we handling our mother in laws

I blocked mine when I got pregnant. She died recently so I don’t have to worry about it anymore lol

No contact since 2019 for me & kiddos, husband is very low contact

My MIL is awesome. It’s my own mother I struggle with. She’s very self-centered and currently only has eyes for my sister’s little girl. My sister and I are close and I adore my niece. But it feels like my baby boy is an afterthought to my parents. My MIL would come and watch my baby boy every single day if I asked her. My mom can barely give me a couple hours. So we’ll see what happens, but if it continues to be the “niece show” as my husband puts it, she’s just not gonna get much time with my baby. And not out of spite, but just cause I’m tired of getting the same answer, or feeling like the black sheep of the family that you can’t come spend time with your grandson without mentioning your granddaughter in the same breath. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but she’s not making it easy.

I have an interesting mil and we are now minimal contact with her. My partner initially didn’t want to do this because she would say horrible things and do stuff when he wasn’t around so he didn’t want to 100% accept it. It wasn’t until she put our little on in a very dangerous situation that he agreed to go minimal contact so we pretty much mirror the amount of effort she puts in which is sweet fuck all. It has been almost 12 months since we have done this and it was the best thing we did for 1 our family and 2 my mental health. I would say have a very honest conversation with your partner and voice your concerns and come up with something that is going to work for both of you. We did initially start with minimal contact from myself and our little girl and my partner still saw her often but he then started to see what her true colours could be and stopped making effort

My MIL is about an 8 hour drive away without a drivers license and too shot to remember she has children let alone a grand child most days in a moment of temporary lucidity during my third trimester she asked if she could come down when I was having the baby to which I set clear boundaries that my home is a sober one and she’s welcome to come down if she can get a hotel or stay with other family but I couldn’t handle her staying in my home freshly postpartum at which point she guilt tripped her son to the point he was visibly broken so I messaged her again setting very clear rules stating she could stay with us but again my house is a sober one, she would have to stay on a futon in a room with my pet guinea pigs because that is the only available space and she would have to respect my rules as the mother of my child and respect the fact that I’ll probably need space at some points and she will have to give it to me… she agreed to those rules and never showed up My daughter is 2 months

My MIL kidnapped my oldest twice, has called CPS on me, has kept her from me for almost 8 months once and tried to convince my parents to vouch for her to adopt my oldest... All of this because MIL wanted a daughter of her own so she decided to claim mine?? My daughter's Dad didn't stand up to her and no one else wanted to get involved. That's what lead to all of that happening. On top of all of it, police refused to do anything. Be Very careful