Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Holiday as single mum

Hi can anyone help me do I need to get permission from the father to take my child abroad? He is on the birth certificate however doesn’t see the child or have any contact with us

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Would you let your young children play with other children who are actively living in a homeless shelter?

Might sound like a stupid question but how concerned should I be with letting my children play with other children that live in a homeless shelter? They are their cousins who they've never met before but are now coming into their life. I'm asking because every time we have a doctors appointment we are always asked i...

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Waiting on embryo update

We had our ER on Thursday. They got 10 eggs, 5 of which were mature and all 5 fertilized 🙏🏻 my clinic will update on Day 7...we are praying they all make it to Day 7. Anybody else in the same boat of waiting?

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Hey, First Time Mommies💞

Has anyone felt like you’re not fully prepared , with having stuff in order and time is getting closer and closer? And lowkey panicking

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Flying with baby when you have a different surname?

Unmarried and UK based. Flying with my baby and grandparents in a few weeks. What permissions (letter, birth certificate?) do I need from my partner to take our son out the country without being hassled at border control? We don’t share the same surname! Thank you!

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FET

Hii..today is my 4th transfer..when I started meds of this cycle I was very much confident and positive but today as the day is near I am deeply scared ...I don't hv any negative thoughts I am just scared and feel like crying non stop ...I don't know why..please suggest something to calm myself down ..

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Ethnicity wars

Hi, I am mixed English and Turkish and my husband is Pakistani. We had a baby boy. His parents were set on him having a Pakistani name. My husband told me the he is more Pakistani than anything else and so should have Pakistani names. What annoys me is that he says he’s more Pakistani than anything else so he sho...

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Progressing?

Are these progressing nicely? They’re all 48hrs apart, but the Tuesdays and Thursdays seem the same?

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Child benefit

Hello mommies, how can we apply for the child benefit? Is there any required documents for the application? What are the necessary information we need to provide regarding bank account? Thanks in advance.

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Bd

How does one assert boundaries with father of child after he has bashed your name to his entire family?

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FET next week 🤞

I triggered this morning so have got my FET booked in for Tuesday eeek! So excited but so nervous, trying to stay positive and manifest and hope for the best. The embryo isn’t the best quality but trying not to worry about that. Anyone else transferring next week or have any tips for before and after the FET and the...

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Sole custody or live in parent

My child’s father isn’t on the birth certificate how do I apply for sole custody or live in parent in the UK? Has anyone gone through this process?

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2nd baby

So I have a little boy who is 2yrs 8m. I definitely want another because I don’t want him to be an only child especially because he doesn’t have any cousins or kids in the family and that’s not going to change any time soon. But how will I know when it’s the right time? I feel like I’m waiting for my little boy to ...

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Harvesting colostrum😊

First attempt at harvesting for the liquid gold this evening at 37+1 (Midwife told me to hold off on collecting until 37 weeks), quite happy with that for a first go😊

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Dating frozen transfer

I went to the hospital today to discuss what happens now and for more medication. They have estimated my due date as 20th may 2025. She said its hard to know how many weeks I am with a frozen transfer. Has any one else had this?

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Phoning/call from mum & dad

I’m looking after another toddler for a bit (10days they’re away from home). We’re doing fine but it got me curious: What are your experiences with calls/video calls between separated toddlers and main caregivers? What do you notice is best for yours?

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Not coping with weaning

I’m not coping with weaning. Does anyone know if there’s any support for parents out there? someone who will come to my house and watch me feed my baby and give advice??

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Gro egg

What is everyone grow egg reading tonight mine is 20.4 and I feel freezing .

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🤔🤔🤔

How do you feel about having 2 baby fathers?

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Parenting styles

Do you think it is okay for two parents to use different parenting methods? (Mom more gentle dad more authoritative.) Having trouble with determining if it should always be a united approach removing any confusion or if since each parent plays a different role, if different strategies are okay and actually beneficial.

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