Behaviour

My son's behaviour in groups is so bad at the moment. He grabs, tantrums, throws things. I'm so deflated. Everyone else's children seem to be able to interact and play, but he just snatches and throws as soon as it gets busy. Don't really know what I'm after here but I just feel so shitty.
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Having similar issues 😞 he looks so much older than he actually is too so I feel like he’s judged much more harshly for the bad behaviour by people who don’t know him. Seems like this is all pretty normal for their age, it’s just so hard and embarrassing at times 😞

It really is. We have the same. I guess it is normal, but it's so hard isn't it? Just feel so rubbish about it. I guess lots of us probably feel like this

My daughter is very confident and outgoing and is a nightmare in small group/toddler settings so we avoid them as I also have an 8month and it just isn’t manageable. We do outside activities instead like the park or groups like wild tots, gymnastics or active sessions that are in sports or leisure halls. She loves it and it’s so much more enjoyable for us all.

My son loves being outside too.. it isn't so much of an issue when we're outside. That's a good idea with things like gym. I might have a look around

I think some children just need more space to be active and if there’s more resources/toys etc there’s less of a need to share as much. Hope you find some groups that work for you 🤞🏽

My boy is in the everything is his stage and gets upset even if he’s not played with it for ages. In the group I go all parents are having good or bad days, I would never judge if I also see the parent calmly correcting them and showing what they should do. I would keep going to play groups so he gets used to it, better to learn now with you than when he goes to nursery or school not knowing how to share. Gymnastics is also a great group he go to with a mix of active exploring and joining in with a group activities, he’s getting better at following others now and taking turns.

Thanks. He is OK at nursery it seems. Has his moments but mostly OK. I've decided to give it a break until half term and try again. I think for my sanity as well as his. I do agree about not shying away from it forever but I think we both need a break

You sound like you both need a break, don’t feel guilty about having some time out from groups! I’m sure your son has plenty of other opportunities at home/nursery and with friends/family etc to socialise and practice sharing and turn taking. You said his behaviour becomes more difficult when sessions are busy so maybe he finds it overwhelming? Best of luck and go easy on yourself x

Thank you for this. I really appreciate the kind words. Yes, I think he finds it too overwhelming. He's a very energetic boy and he is quite young in his ways, even for this age (seen developmental pediatrics). I think for both of us a break is a good plan. He's such a happy boy when he has me and dad around and lots of space x

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