Money - paying for trips

Imo, I don't think you're in the wrong. I don't think it's fair to you or to your daughter to work around his daughter and babymom. You're having to pretty much put your life and your daughters life on hold because her mom won't allow her to go. It's a tough situation, and I'm sure he feels bad that his daughter doesn't get to go, but that's what coparenting is, and he also shouldn't put his life on hold either if babymom won't let their daughter do something. Also, you paying for HIS trip with HIS daughter if you and your daughter aren't going, doesn't make any sense. You said you'd pay for your trip with your daughter, so it's only fair he pays for his own trip with his daughter, especially if you both have your own finances.

@Sabrina right . That’s how I feel but he makes it seem like I’m completely in the wrong for not wanting to go back to disneyworld . It’s not necessarily cheap and I want to do other things with my daughter . He thinks if his daughter can’t go then we all shouldn’t go . But nobody is gonna sit here and talk about the experiences our daughter is gonna miss when step daughter is at her moms doing things to . I have no idea why he thinks it’s ok to expect me to pay for trips he wants to take with the kids when I never ask or expect help for things I want to do with either or both kids . It makes no sense to me

I have family all over like in the UK. Asia. Mexico . France . Etc . My family is very close knit and they’ve never met my daughter . Obviously I consider my family my husband and step daughter too but I want to experience going to different countries with my cousins and their kids (Same age as my daughter) and creating memories with my parents . I’m not saying never go to Florida ever again but I don’t want to go every year . I’d rather save for somewhere else . I understand it has to be a compromise but my husband just thinks I’m being unfair because his daughter can’t come in general

I don’t think you’re wrong at all. You work hard and want to experience new and different scenery. I am the same way. I would not accept going to the same place. If he doesn’t like it about his daughter not being able to go, then he needs to get a court order that will allow him to get the daughter a passport and leave with him.

I would plan for a trip, open the invitation for bonus daughter and him to go and have him provide whatever information her mom may need to feel comfortable. (Where y’all will be staying, flight details and an avenue to talk on the phone at least once a day, send pics and nice lil updated and be very communicative). If she still doesn’t allow her to go I would proceed with the trip plans. What you want to do and experience with your child should not be stopped because of him/her mom. Whether he chooses to go or not is on him.

@Nai I waited 3 years for him to go to court to fight for a passport and he still hasn’t done anything . That’s another of my frustrations is that I have been patient . I have waited for him to get it together . But if he’s not even trying then it’s legitimately not my fault

@Tiaura even trying to go to hawaii I had to work with BM to get permission because she wasn’t comfortable with it . And I had to make sure they talked everyday etc . Its very tiring and I feel like I can only do so much

damn I’m sorry. You tried it all then! It’s out of your control and you shouldn’t be able to see or go places just because he won’t get his shit together and make sure all of you can travel together.

What @Tiaura said