Close family member hasn’t vaccinated baby and doesn’t plan to

I won’t allow unvaccinated babies near my baby. Point blank period. If yalls baby’s are going to be near each other I would say something or set a boundary. I will not danger my child because someone else is ignorant and uneducated.

^ couldn’t agree more.

No I don’t think it’s your business. It’s a health decision that you shouldn’t really know anyway. There’s no point in bringing it up because the decision they made is for a reason so I don’t see how you saying anything would change their mind just like they can’t change your mind on the matter. I don’t know everyone’s vaccination status everywhere I go (and shouldn’t because it’s personal) and that wouldn’t change how I interact with anyone. I would only care if someone is actively sick, then I wouldn’t see them regardless.

I wouldn’t say anything but I also wouldn’t be around them at all.

You aren’t going to change their minds, so i wouldn’t say anything all i would do is distance myself and my child from that family now if they ask why no harm In being honest but it’s not your place to critique or give unsolicited advice

@Myranda well with Christmas coming up it got me thinking about family celebrations and stuff and just not being comfortable them being around. I don’t have a newborn right now but trying for another.

@Erin But I’m glad I do know so now I can take precautions in the future. I think they should have a responsibility to tell people as they’re putting others in danger. But apart from all that I’m actually scared for this baby and the stupid risk they’re taking with the baby’s health. I’ve lost a lot of respect for them. I just keep thinking about that precious baby and it breaks my heart if anything ever happened because of their choice

@Khyia I’m upset because I think we will have to distance and it’s the last thing I’d want. There’s a backstory of family drama but things have been so much better lately and now I think this will be hard to get past

@Flixster I know some people will think I should mind my business but I feel like I’m sticking up for this baby who can’t do it for themselves. I get that everyone parents differently but this doesn’t seem like one of those types of choices to me.

I’m probably the wrong person lol we don’t have antivaxer in my family but a whole little physical verbal and mental abuse. I cut people off everyday. I stopped talking to my mom cause she cussed me out in Sam’s club and was acting like she wanted to fit me in front of my 6 month old. I cut my aunt off this year cause she came to my baby shower talking shit about the games, the drinks, the food my couch. I’ve cut people off for less. It DOES suck but it’s your peace they are disturbing don’t let anyone family or not make you feel like you can’t do what you think is best for yourself and your family. Hopefully the child will grow up to informed themselves and get vaccinated in their own. It always surprises me how adults who are fill up in there vaccine schedule with out being diagnosed for autism they love to say vaccines cause and turn around and don’t vaccinate their children it’s crazy.

not trying to be rude but i need you to be for real… i vaccinate my children yes but there are some parents who don’t imagine a nonvaxx parent coming to you telling you why they feel you vaccinating your child is harmful… how would you feel? You even said the child is well taken care of so again not your place to tell them what you feel is best for their child or other unvaccinated children your doing entirely to much girl 🤣🤣

@Khyia right?! I was saying this to my husband last night. Both parents are fully vaxxed from childhood but not Covid. Both healthy and neurotypical. But taking these stupid risks for their child and other people. I really hope they will rethink or the child will do it when they’re older. But all these old diseases are on the rise now. I’ve never cut any family off so feels like a big deal to me and feel like then I’d have no way to try to influence anything. I feel like I need to let it go but I can’t get it out of my head. Poor baby.

@Flixster I would honestly feel fine because I know they’re wrong. If a family member thought I was doing something that harmed my child I think it’s right for them to speak up. It’s not just my child they’re a person of their own - a grandchild, a nephew, a cousin or whatever. Like if I was putting my baby in the car seat wrong so it’s not safe they should come and tell me.

None of my children are vaccinated. My child and I lead a vaccine free lifestyle. My husband is vaccinated for work. It’s a parent’s legal right to decide whether to have their children vaccinated or not. None of my family have expressed concerns with me because, well I’m just not the kind of person that you’d do that with -generally speaking. I’m well read and when I make decisions they are done after I’ve taken the time to conduct research. If you have a concern and you are close enough to your family member to address it with him or her then I would. If you feel the need to do so . I’m assuming that they are aware of the particulars surrounding vaccines and that they may be able to put you at ease regarding their relation, specific to them.

@Donna just because something is a right doesn’t make it right. Legal and moral or ethical are not the same thing. Vaccines have helped saved millions of lives, there is mountains of research to support that fact. Peer reviewed good quality research. We are so fortunate to have access to life saving vaccines. Many people are not so lucky.

I feel I do want to have a conversation but don’t know the right words and know there is nothing that would convince me this is a good idea. I just don’t know why you would take that risk with someone else’s life it just doesn’t add up.

Ms anonymous your kids are “your” kids for a reason. There are licensed / practicing physicians around today that supply parents with information relating to alternatives to vaccinating their children if they feel it’s in their best interest to do so. I don’t personally care what your or anyone else’s thoughts are on how I choose to raise my children, as they again- aren’t yours…Thus ,The last thing I’ll do personally is hold some random on the internet -who is not even courageous enough to post outwardly, information as truth for my family and I. I’m aware of the particulars surrounding vaccines and think that each parents job is to conduct research on their own to determine what’s best for “their children”. If you’ve found that to be the best that you can do then good for you but as for me and mine -we will continue to lead a vaccine free lifestyle since there is a way to do so adequately.

I would also just ask her outright . Why aren’t you vaccinating so & so I’m just curious. When people ask me this they get a response that’s kind and informed so long as they’re not Trying to belittle or shame me into seeing and doing things their way . Which is insulting…I would try to (understand )what she’s doing and why -over trying to shame her if that makes sense … it never works out right with the latter.

You’re on a witch hunt, and based on your responses, it seems like you’ve been waiting for this moment. As someone who vaccinates their children, I’m not dismissing the fact that choosing not to vaccinate is highly irresponsible. However, just as I’ve thoroughly researched my decision to vaccinate, I would hope that those who choose otherwise have also done their due diligence. If that’s the case, they’re making what they believe is the best choice for their child. So what do you think constantly pushing this information on them will achieve? All I’m saying is, cut out the self-righteousness. Comparing a child not being properly secured in a car seat to not vaccinating isn’t apples-to-apples. In the end, they are still the parents. If multiple doctors and credible sources haven’t changed their minds, what exactly do you think you’re going to accomplish—other than creating more conflict?

@Donna If parents always knew what was best then nobody would ever have a child taken from their care. In lots of situations parents do know their child best but most people can have children, having children doesn’t suddenly make you a medical expert. I’m not commenting on your choices specifically I’m speaking generally about parents who choose not to vaccinate including my family member. I am incognito as I’m speaking about another individual (my family member) not myself or about vaccinating in general. I don’t respect their choice but I’m not about to blast them all over the internet.

@Flixster a witch hunt? I’m sure @Donna would agree that she doesn’t give a damn what I think. I’m actually glad she’s commented because it’s helpful to see what someone with this view actually thinks. I am absolutely self righteous about this because I know that I am right. I think it’s disingenuous to say you do you, no judgment when I am judging. As are you, saying the choice is highly irresponsible. And like me you are also right.

I’m not judging I’m calling you out on you thinking you have the right to push your views on another parent WHEN YOU DO NOT PERIOD!

@Flixster even when another parent is making a highly irresponsible choice?