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Could you go to a sling library to see if there is a carrier that she'd prefer? Mine hated my expensive soft sling I was sure she'd like and loved the ergobaby 360. Best of luck.
I think persevere , take the baby to a country park or somewhere less quiet so you don’t feel the pressure , she will adjust and I promise you it will be worth it. The longer you stay indoors with her the more she will hate outside: It’s so important for you and your mental health so go see that sky! You can so do this xxx
Try going to some groups near by, everyone around you are either in the same position or have been (if their child is slightly older). Everyone will be super supportive and especially the volunteers that run the groups. Check out strong start or library groups. There’s probably also a lot of other mums and tots stay and play groups around you. I was the same when I had my first, worried what other people thought of me when my baby cried and it always seemed like mine was the loudest. It’ll only get better with time and experience of going out. Have you connected with anyone local on peanut that you can meet at a group? That’s what’s helped me attend groups, much easier if there’s a familiar face, even if it’s your first time meeting them.
Absolutely persevere! My bub was soooo bad being taken anywhere (he cried at home too) my mum thought there was something wrong with him and I took him to the doctors 3 times in his first 6 months just for crying. Doc said he is just a crying baby 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ He’s now almost 2 and still cries in the car and not a fan of the pram. BUT… outings got easier the more I did them and you start being more ok when they cry. I used to get super embarrassed coz there was nothing I could do to make him happy! But overtime it gets easier. Also you’ll find things they like. My boy liked sitting at the park on a picnic rug with music or books. You’ll get there mama! But don’t lock yourself in. Get out into the world.
Try the momcozy newborn to toddler carrier
Hey! I know exactly how you feel. I had this with my first. It was really challenging because he didn’t like either the sling or stroller. He cried a lot in the first few months. I was very anxious about him crying. Have you tried taking her out when she’s asleep? That was the only way I could for the first few months with my first lol. Try and take it easy. If you can’t, Start taking her out 5 mins every day and gradually increase it. Eventually she’ll get used to it and will like it. Try a different carrier id say!
defo keep going, they need to get used to it and the more they do, they’ll more they get used to it and the less they’ll cry. it’s good to get them outside, and you for your own mental health. easier said than done but please don’t feel embarrassed if baby is crying whilst you’re outside. my first month all my pram walks were him crying the whole way 🤣 i felt embarrassed at first but just dealt with it, no one in public said anything. he’s good now and doesn’t mind anymore. stay strong! xxx
@Louise my baby also loved the same sling!
I didn't really go to public places until she was 6 months. The first months were just in the garden or a balcony. After 3 months I started walking in the woods with her in a cosy carrier. She often fell asleep. What surprised me was I saw other mums doing the same, just silently walking with a baby in their sling in the woods with headphones on. We never spoke, but I didn't feel so alone after that.
Have you tried popping her in the pram when she's asleep and getting out that way even if its just a 10 minute walk? X
Oh my! I had to go out once a day when I was at home with baby - it was a mental health must. Around the block, walk thru mall, attending infant play events, signing up for classes, etc. Tbh if I go out to the mall now and hear a baby crying I am like oh, the baby must need x, then move on. I don’t think ppl really dwell unless they are like on a plane and it’s a super long flight lol
There’s nothing wrong with a crying baby who’s fed loved and clean. Getting out is so important, baby will soon adjust and if anyone asks just say it’s colic because it sounds like it is. The stroller and sling should settle baby not make them cry so don’t think it’s that. You’ll feel better getting out in nature even if it’s just walk round the block for ten minutes.