Am I being unreasonable?

Just need some honesty here (without being mean 😂) So my friend of over 20 years moved down to Devon when she had her baby about 5 years ago. I am in the midlands. She has family that are still here and up in Blackpool who she comes to see occasionally and when she comes here I meet up with her. Her parents are in Devon with her too and don’t often give her and her daughter lifts when they come back so they have to get the train 🙄 which I think is totally unfair as they have all the space but cba with a 5 year old in the car. Anyway, she’s going to Blackpool over Christmas and on the way back she says she’s going to stop over in Birmingham for the night so that we can meet. She’s asked to meet in Birmingham as it’s easier for her however, it’s a 45 minute travel for me and I don’t want to drive into Birmingham at that time of year with a 1 year old or even really get the train as I feel like it will be so busy. I also have very little money. I’ve explained this to her but am feeling like she’s just going to expect me to travel. I don’t want to just say no as I missed out on seeing her last time but I don’t know what to do!

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I should say, her family who live around here don’t let her stay with them either. Which again, is totally unfair. She also said she has to change trains loads if she goes from here to Devon whereas Birmingham to Devon is easier. So that’s the reason she’s staying in b’ham 😂

Yeah I’d say it’s either travel to her or just arrange another meet up for after Christmas and just explain why. True friends always appreciate and understand honesty x

I'm in a similar situation as your friend. I moved away from 'home' and try to see lots of people when I'm back and understand that's easier that lots of people making the journey to see me. I do think 45 mins is a reasonable journey for you to see your friend. After all she is doing a lot of travelling in what sounds like not the easiest circumstances. You'd see her a lot less if you had to go to her. I'd make the effort.

I would go and see her. She's making the effort to travel most of the way and clearly values you enough to want to see you. Her family sound a bit d***ish which is a shame and must make things tough for her.

Thanks everyone! You’re all totally right. Her family are twats tbh and I want to make sure she knows she can still rely on me. Just needed to hear it from others I think! X

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