Relationships since baby

Does anyone else feel like no one else thinks of the mums feelings and only theirs when it comes to grandparents etc? For example, my mum & dad are absolutely obsessed with my little girl (1 year old) which is lovely to see, but sometimes I just feel like no one ever thinks of what’s best for me rather than them? We had a disagreement because I chose to take my little one to a day out for her birthday rather than grandparents getting to see her. (I got upset that no one was thinking of how we feel as parents only what they wanted) & another thing… when my mum is with me and my LO, if my LO comes to me and gives me a cuddle, my mum will get on the floor and start playing with toys knowing my little one will jump off me and play with her instead. I’ve said to her I notice she does this and she says ‘oh well you have her all the time, I don’t see her Alot’ (she sees her 3x a week) To me, the fact my mum doesn’t like my own little girl coming to cuddle me and gets jealous? in a way is not very nice? Me and my mum are really close and she’s always been my best friend but I just feel like since having my little girl I’ve struggled with my relationship with her. Think I just wonder if anyone else has gone through something similar?