Wanting a third child
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@Sophie yes I did think about that. I'd do anything tbh. Maybe I can open the discussion. Thank you for being kind
@Laura I think that's it. Whilst you're in it you're in a very different head space, whereas they watch from the sidelines, see everything and feel completely helpless. Was your husband always on board, did he need encouragement or did he just get there in his own time? I don't want to pressure him into it either and he ends up resenting me 😔
I wouldn’t say he needed encouragement but I think he knew I would never feel complete or like our family was full of we didn’t have another one! So I just said before I’m 30 I’d really like one more baby and then I just left it to him to decide when he was ready! Also with my third I was very clear on what I did and didn’t want to happen to me during delivery and I think that made him reassured that I was in control and that it wouldn’t get as bad as it did with our second! X
Completely understand, and can draw a parallel! First pregnancy induced, pre-eclampsia huge haemorrhage, second time huge haemorrhage and sepsis after delivery, but desperately needed my July 21 baby! Told husband I wanted one more before my 30th birthday and he gave me the green light on my 27th birthday have birth month before my 28th birthday! 3rd time round was a breeze all went well, no haemorrhage no ill health, gave birth at 6am home by 2pm! We’ve discussed it all quite a lot, recently and he said he witnessed it all and remembers everything, like I don’t remember them sticking meds up my butt etc I don’t remember how much blood was under the bed etc he does, he remembers everything and it terrified him seeing me like that