I had 2 boys and haven’t struggled at all. I agree with the previous post, I don’t believe gender has anything to do with it
I put boy but actually thinking about it it was pretty much the same with both genders tbh
My pregnancy with my boy was much easier. My mental health was the same with both pregnancies. I had PPD both times but worse after my girl.
I don’t think gender has really played a roll in this for me. More like there’s added stress after the first baby/different life stages/experiences during the pregnancy