Social media are so fake

Anyone else is fed up with influencers etc constantly trying to portray perfect life? I have 6 month old baby and those influencer moms are making me feel miserable. There is a particular influencer i really like. She was pregnant at the same time as me and her baby is similar age as mine. I followed her entire pregnancy journey and postpartum and she seems to go through the whole motherhood like a breeze. Her baby seems to be perfect with perfect sleep patterns, feeding routine etc. Always dressed up in beautiful baby clothes. Her house seems to be immaculate, she never looks tired, goes to gym and away on holidays all the time. No financial struggle. And here i am!! Sleep deprived, tired, house looking so untidy, no time for myself, my baby never wants to sleep and most stuff we have is second hand. So why social media portrays this unrealistic life or is it real? I feel like such a looser in comparison.

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I just don't follow any of them and then they can't annoy me 😊

Honestly, I have a 10 week old. We currently live at my boyfriend’s parents house. We have one room to ourselves and that’s it 🤣 I can’t even leave a baby gym in the living room. I feel horrid that this is situation that my little girl is growing up in. But we also can’t afford our own place; we are on the council list but this is what we have and we are making do. We have second hand stuff, we brought all her ted baker stuff on vinted. We are lucky if we put our little one in one outfit a week; she lives in sleepsuits x

It's always fake. Hell even irl you bump into a new mom at the grocery store she's not going to tell you about every sleepless night or frustration. We like it when people think well of us, and it leads us all to be more than a little fake sometimes. Social media has absolutely driven this to new heights but it's nothing new, it's almost the purpose of social media. Posturing for people whose opinions you don't care about in the first place is the entire goal of social media. It's by design!

@Tagmayne thank you for the nice comment you are so right!! ❤️

@Megan yes we also buy lots of stuff from vinted! Sorry about the house situation!! Hope you’ll get your own home soon ❤️

I wouldn’t worry much about influencers, most of the stuff they have in there homes are given to them. They have to keep up appearances 24/7 and let’s face it, I think I’d rather struggle than have to pretend every day that everything is perfect 🤣

That is literally her job to portrait a perfect life because thats what people try to aim for. We are all struggling though 😂

honestly what blows my mind the most is that obviously this stuff is fake, but how do these people even find the time to fake it all?! 😒

@Amanda i even struggle to find time to shower some days 😄

RIGHT! shoot i haven’t washed my hair in a week 😅

i promise she has her share of struggles too, but what most people put on social media is a highlight reel of their lives. “comparison is the their of joy”

they don’t realise the harm they’re doing. they’re giving people false expectations of motherhood and they’re making mums feel awful postpartum. we’re seeing their “perfect, easy” baby and wondering why we don’t have the same. ultimately, lots of us then think we’re doing something wrong, whilst we’re in our most vulnerable state. they may think they’re “helping” other mums but really they’re using our vulnerabilities for content, hoping that we like/comment etc. we’re not, you’re not doing anything wrong ❤️ you have a real life baby, not a well oiled machine. (sorry for the essay but these influencers annoy me so much.)

I think that behind that "perfect" mom and baby there is a cleaner, a nanny, and other helpers. Also you never know how many shots she had until she managed to get baby settled for the videos. It s difficult to trust someone about their routine with the baby as long as you don't live with them to see it yourself. Babies will be babies, they are little humans, all different and change their 'routnes' so much in the first year anyway. It also depends on baby temperament. Don't stress, you are doing great 😊

Social media for most people and especially influencers, is a highlights reel. It's not meant to represent the day to day or even most of the time. Adjust your expectations! You're doing just fine ❤️

I don’t think it’s fake per se, definitely exaggerated and only posting her good days, (because so do I) but know that she probably has amazing support from her partner and probably a village behind her- sisters, friends etc. I personally like following influencers like that because I see it as an inspiration- like if she can do it, so can I, mentality. I wanna be better for me and my kids and when I see mums able to do that, gives me inspiration. But I also do have unconditional support from my partner for me to achieve that. If you don’t, then don’t compare yourself to those with immense support because it’s not fair on you. Maybe follow some other accounts, other influencers, that post raw real stuff that you can relate to.

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