Thinking of trying for another child but scared.

I had ppd and ppa when I had my daughter and I just felt lost and overwhelmed for a whole year and going through that again scares me. But I also see my 3 year old and she wants a sibling. She as asked my now more than ever. I want to do that for her and also just add to our little family but the postpartum time for me was not so great. I'm scared of feeling those same feelings and most of all feeling alone and like I'm not a good enough parent.has anyone gone through ppd or ppa? Have you had another child since then?if so how was it? Was it something that you were able to over come since you knew what to look for? I'm just trying to step over this hump of fear because I really want another child but what's stopping me is those intense lows I had during that time.

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I got pretty severe PPD after my first, and while I still got it with my second I think I was able to seek out some resources more effectively the second time around since I recognized what was happening more. Having a good psychiatrist treat me was way more effective than having my regular doctor treat it (which is what I did the first time around).

Same as Zoe. I was bad with my oldest but with my second born I was no where near as bad as I was with him. I had moments with her but a few months after she was born I did seek out help just in case it did get as bad.

Hi there. Like you I also went through severe ppd with my firstborn. It was really bad; I was suicidal, my marriage almost came to an end and basically the first year was bad. Like you, I also wanted to give my firstborn a sibling and so we had a second...even though I DID NOT want to go through the newborn phase again. When the second baby came, although the ppd wasn't as bad as before, this time it was a different kind of difficult: the first time is hard MENTALLY but second baby was hard PHYSICALLY. I had to (still have to) juggle myself with a baby and also give time to my toddler. I could no longer give my 100% undivided attention to my toddler and it caused massive mom guilt. I remember initially feeling like i had made a mistake. Before I spent all my attention on my toddler and did activities and we had a nice routine going on..now suddenly I found myself telling my toddler "give mommy 5 minutes I'm with the baby..." or even snapping at her because I was frustrated with the newborn etc. Continued **

Although the younger one is now 1.5 years old and its a bit easier..it's not as easy as it is with just one child...and this is coming from someone who had tons of help (in laws, parents friends etc). Don't have another one simply because you want your child to have a sibling. Are you able to give equal attention and resources to both? I'm an only child btw and from my experience I had a wonderful childhood and never felt like I lacked anything. Instead, I remember the great moments my parents spent with me and the childhood experiences. That's all I'll say. If you want to ask more feel free to dm me!

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