Post partum sex

I was soo sore yesterday I had to stop I’m 6 weeks postpartum too

I tried to have sex at 6 weeks 2 days, used a lot of lube but it was too painful had to stop before even getting it in

Oh no! I’m six weeks but just has the depo shot so waiting one more week but I’m nervous!!

@Barira wild did you do c section or vaginal delivery

All the 6 weeks clearance means is that you’re no longer prone to infection. They really need to stop clearing sex at 6 weeks and encourage women to focus more on their recovery.

@Valerie vaginal

I'm not planning to have sex for atleast4-6 months 😅😅 you're brave

@Amanda Brown, it really depends on the person. Some people are ready earlier.

@Ashley that’s my point. 6 weeks is not a 1 size fits all thing. Most women don’t want to have sex yet at that point in general, but are told they’re cleared for it. Why is sex even a topic of conversation so soon after having a baby? It gives our partners who have been waiting for a while the impression that we should be ready for sex bc we are “cleared for it”. Like why is it common knowledge that at 6 weeks you’re cleared, but the hormonal aspect of pregnancy and post partum is so rarely discussed to the point that men don’t understand why a women wouldn’t want to have sex in that time frame, and women are confused as to why they aren’t in the mood and feeling like they should be jumping on their partners sexual urges right at 6 weeks? I just think health care needs to do better for the moms.

7 weeks pp and I still get very sore. Only some positions feel good. Vaginal delivery with no tears and was “cleared” by my dr just a few days before 6 weeks. I’m hoping this doesn’t last too long lol

@Genesys hi can I ask are you “wanting” the sex or just doing it for your partner. Respectfully. I am not judging I just can’t imagine having a drive and still having sex when it hurts super curious of other people’s experiences and urges. This is my 3rd time around and aside from the lack of drive, I’m scared to do it any time soon bc I don’t want any soreness or for my tear to burn etc.

@Amanda Brown I feel the same way. Lack of drive from breastfeeding will really do it 😭 And I'm not risking being sore or something that should be incredibly pleasurable be painful. Nope nope nope 😭😭

@Amanda Brown I wouldn’t say “wanting” because my husband has not once made me feel pressured into having sex nor did he make me feel like I should just for him. Especially after I gave birth. I’m super lucky to have a husband who puts my needs, feelings and health as a huge priority. I love being intimate with my husband and yes I know there are plenty of ways to be intimate without sex and of course we’re intimate in other ways as well. Sex is just one of the ways I enjoy showing my love to my husband. Physical touch is my first love language. I was perfectly fine after I had commented and haven’t been sore and I have been able to enjoy it just as much as I’ve used to. Im sure if I had any tears it might’ve delayed it and probably wouldn’t have wanted to any sooner. I know with my first I had a very small tear and I didn’t have sex for a few months afterwards. It’s just so different this time