Please tell me I’m not crazy

Oh no! Why would she do that!! Have you voiced this to your partner?

My mother in law did a similar thing when I gave birth to her first grandchild. In fairness, I felt it was better as it gave me time with the baby when I didn’t have to worry about ‘his side’ wanting to visit.

Maybe she thinks if the baby did come early, you might not want any immediate visitors. So it would be okay for them to meet the baby two weeks later, if it so happens? Also, did she book it based on everyone’s availability and cost of tickets etc? I don’t think it’s that bad tbh. I didn’t expect people to be available immediately before and after my births. Unless; you were supposed to go on this trip and now you can’t join them? Then I would be upset too.

@Taylor yes he is just as upset we exspected parents to be there at the hospital when we delivered the baby!

@Lola I have voiced that in my family my sister had my parents and in laws there right away and that’s what I wanted! There not just there for the baby but for their children-

My partner's mum didn't bother to even message me my entire pregnancy and when he told her he was upset by her behaviour she told him she "isn't going to kiss Amber's arse" and "not going to beg to be a part of your (my partner) and Louis' life". Some MIL are just selfish assholes

I guess it depends on whether you wanted them to meet the baby straight away or not, I for example didn't want anyone to turn up straight away. Tbf I'd be more annoyed that the family holiday is purposely excluding you (unless you don't like them) 😅 But most importantly, do you have your family nearby, or only his? I'd be quite upset if my only support decided to bugger off when I might need them more

@Giorgia my family is far away but plans to be here no matter what! But I did want his mom there or I thought I did!

@Amber yeah I work with my MIL in a school and she has not acknowledged my pregnancy one time so I’m feeling that!

@Wallace I see, then I agree with you, that is rude. Don’t let it spoilt your moment though, best of luck with the birth:)

My own mother has planned to be away for 4 days across the weekend that I’m due to give birth to go to the funeral of a distant relative, which is only an hour and a half away from where they live (and I presume the funeral is your standard one day affair), but for some reason they need to be gone for the full 4 days. Honestly, I couldn’t be happier to know that I’ll have space from at least one set of grandparents that weekend if I do give birth, but I do know how you feel. It’s not the most supportive move ever. I will also be giving birth to the first grandchild

Coming from someone that gave birth where my MIL wanted to be present, you may not want them there during delivery tbh. I thought I wanted my MIL and she wanted to be but I decided I didn’t last minute and don’t regret it at all. It’s ok and valid to be angry. But if they aren’t directly helping with the baby when you get home, it doesn’t matter who’s there to see the baby. They are just more exposure to germs and sickness to a newborn.

Wish mine would 🙈😂

Yeah I would be too! If it was me I’d be hoping they would all be super excited and wouldn’t want to risk missing the birth! But the fact you have said she hasn’t acknowledged your pregnancy once is so sad, that must be really disheartening. But congratulations on your pregnancy ❤️

@Amey i feel that 😂😂