A Little Win Against MIL

So right from the beginning, my MIL has been awful with crossing boundaries, being manipulative, belittling, and downright disrespectful. Since our first child (4 years old) was born she has been posting pics of our kids on social media without our consent, especially because we don’t want our kids on the internet at all. My husband is the non-confrontational type because his parents are manipulative and have been his whole life. He’s tried pleading with his mother this entire time to take them down and respect our boundaries moving forward. Surprise, surprise, she never has. Well she posted again a few days ago and it was the final straw, my husband finally agreed with me to report to Facebook and have them taken down despite the probability that we’ll get backlash from MIL for it later, not that I really care. Facebook is taking all these posts of my kids down, one by one, and it feels fucking fantastic. I can’t stop smiling or help that I have a “take that bitch” attitude about it. My husband says vengeance isn’t becoming of me but I couldn’t care less. This woman has bullied us for far too long, I always followed my husband’s lead because they’re his family, but it feels like a pretty big win after all this time to finally do it my way. It’s still about 2 years before we can move far enough away from them, but I am so looking forward to the day where I can permanently say good riddance to the in-laws. I’ve felt so guilty about not getting along with the in-laws, but now I’ve finally hit “fuck it”. I’m done with trying to make it work. Anyway, thanks for listening. I just needed to share what felt like a pretty big victory to me. I haven’t been the best with upholding my own boundaries either and this is definitely a confidence boost.

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How did you get them taken down? My husband's stepmom posted my son before I even left the recovery room after my c section. I planned on making an announcement post after reaching our actual room, and she took that from me. She hasn't even seen him since he was 6 weeks old, he's now 20 months and she still has it up even though I have reported it a couple times.

@Cheyann I didn’t use the “…” on the corner of the post to report. Instead I went this route; - go to help centre - policies & reporting - reporting a privacy violation - report a photo or video that violates the privacy of your child - then filled out the privacy contact form for children under 13 yrs old. There’s a bit of a form to fill out, plus you need the URL of the photo. Then there was some emailing back and forth with Facebook about the details of the photo, a screenshot of the post, and proof of identity and guardianship.

@Cheyann to make my reasoning for violation of privacy be taken seriously, I stated the risks of child endangerment on the internet. I also had a hospital photo of me and my daughter posted and I made it clear that the photo was taken in a patient’s private hospital room and not a public space

@Cheyann hope this helps and best of luck ❤️

Thank you, I'm going to try this

No one should post photos of someone else or their child without consent so I absolutely support this post and sorry you had to deal with it especially when you told her to stop. I’m glad they are being taking down and hope you can move forward knowing that their won’t be countless of photos of your child out there that you didn’t consent to

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