I’m struggling

I feel the same way. Most the time I miss my old life. It’s hard because I love my baby so much, but don’t recognize myself. I feel selfish and guilty.

@Jayla yessssss I feel so guilty for feeling like this. And no matter what anyone says, I feel so bad, especially when I want some me time.

It’s such a lonely feeling. No one warned me about it before having a baby.

@Jayla it definitely is. I’m letting all the ladies know before they make the decision.

Honestly it gets so much better. You are still in the thick of it and it’s brutal at times. The frustration is real and a completely normal experience for mums. This is my second baby and I get SO frustrated still and at times just wish I could have some alone time. However I remind myself of what’s to come. If it didn’t, I wouldn’t have done it again!

I scheduled a therapy appt for this reason...feelings of being alone and yes, wanting some me time. I am in Colorado if any of you are we could find a time to get together. I am trying to find more people to interact with so I have things to look forward to

@Jess I tell myself that. And I make sure I don’t show her my frustrations.

@Sara I’m in Mississippi 😭😩 I wish we were closer

@Jasmine I know it’s easier said than done to remind yourself. I try not to show frustrations also but I’m not going to lie, I called her an arsehole the other day 🤷‍♀️ she was being one…She doesn’t know, and in the moment I felt a tiny bit better to get it out 😂

@Jess 😂😂😂No because they can be sometimes and it does feel good to have a mini venting session

Girl I’m right there with you. I feel guilty because I made the choice to have a child and yet here I am having a hard time and feeling frustrated. But its a big life change that’s impossible to prepare for. Feeling frustrated is a normal human response. It doesn’t make us bad moms, just human. And then we’re great mom because we talk about it and ask for help. You on here, me in therapy. If we weren’t good moms we wouldn’t care about getting frustrated. In a way we have to grieve our old lives before baby in order to truly enjoy this new one and all it offers. It will take us time and that’s ok.

@Brianna you’re so right. Why are we so hard on ourselves?

@Jasmine because we know how important of a role we play in our children’s lives and it’s hard not to want to do that perfectly

I felt this hard with my firstborn. It took me a while to realize it was a grief based feeling for me. I was grieving my life pre-baby. Things like having free time for hobbies, being able to go out on a whim, and even getting invited out more. I mean, with a baby, even going to the grocery store can be hard.

@Karynn how did/do you cope? I think that’s what is for me grieving my “old life”.

@Jayla honestly, i just followed some recommendations from Google for dealing with grief. A lot of allowing myself to feel the emotions without judging myself.