Am I wrong for feeling this way

My babygirl isn’t born yet however me and her father are no longer together. We get along fine for now but I don’t necessarily like him around me, hugging me or touching my bump. I do love and care for him but he’s put me through a very traumatic and damaging experience while we were together. Since we’ve broken up I’ve felt more at peace and comfortable without him, I feel like I have to be on eggshells with him every time I see him or communicate with him. Am I wrong for feeling this way or has anyone else experienced something similar before?
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It’s not wrong to feel that way at all. It’s just going to be be harder to adapt because you are having a baby together whereas if it was just a break up with no strings you’d never have to see that person again and you could move forward.

Seems very normal it's your body and it's good time make boundaries now, you'll have to make tons of them when little ones around. I broke up with my ex during pregnancy.

@Ny I can never bring myself to set them because the tiniest things can send him on an rampage and he’ll start throwing threats at me

It sounds abusive tbh. I know not everyone's open to therapy, but it was so helpful when I was going through pregnancy alone and trying to separate with someone who had issues. Maybe even just speaking to a professional someone who can navigate the Is with you. Because when your little one is born, you'll want everything to be as good as it can be for her x

@Ny I’m currently in therapy and Ive been doing better but I still struggle with things here and there like setting boundaries or anything in my head that would start a fight or conflict.

I was the same, I still have ways to go, but you're doing the right thing, small steps at a time you'll get there. You're going to be a great mum.

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