Any suggestions?

I have never had sex that wasn’t painful. Sometimes it’s better than others, different positions are better. But I kind of hate it because half the time I want to cry but I feel like I have to pretend it’s great. I am not really experienced at all and definitely don’t do it often. I am just wondering if this is somewhat normal or if there’s something I should try to help. Thanks!

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Question: are you aroused, lubricated, and mentally/physically/emotionally actually ready? Sometimes your head is ready before your body is. And trying to relax for sex when you’re not ready is harder than you think If you’re still having problems, please please talk to your doctor! Sex should NOT be painful to the point of crying! Hope you listen to your body ❤️

I have an autoimmune disorder that causes painful sex along with endometriosis and PCOS. I have never been into sex. I faked it my entire life. I have done pelvic floor therapy to see if it would help and I could only do one position. I don’t have sex anymore

@Stephanie I would say initially I was not ready at all. I know I am now though and am just trying to prepare the best I can because I want to enjoy it. I was considering getting some sort of lubrication because I think that is a problem even when I am aroused properly.

After my second baby, it took me almost a year and a half for me to start enjoying sex again. I honestly had to get comfortable with my new body and hormonal changes. One of the things that helped me was, honestly self care/ learning more about my new body, and…. Giving myself Os. I don’t know what all you’re going through but I hope you definitely take care of yourself in whatever way you think you need to ❤️❤️

I’ve definitely struggled with my body changes but I’ve always been hard on myself about appearance. I’ve been in therapy for almost two years now, mentally better than ever. I take care of myself in every way aside from giving myself Os, I’ve never done that. I guess I don’t know my body all that well tbh

As someone who thought struggles with ED and body dysmorphia, I absolutely get that!! I don’t know if you like reading or romance… but I also recently got into smut books . (Not the crazy kind because of past trauma) BUT I’ve noticed that reading has also helped me be more open minded and vocal with what I do want from a partner, both romantically and sexually.

It also depends if your getting enough lubricant down there. I actually have products to help with pain during sex, enhancement creams to help you get in the mood and orgasm. If you like to know more I would be happy to chat.

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