Sleep Training

I’m scared to try sleep training because of what I’ve heard! Even though we’re desperate now. I’ve heard that babies learn that you won’t come and help them when they’re crying at night or something. I’ve heard that self-settling as a baby is a myth, they just learn that you won’t be there to help them when they have a problem!

@Charley omg really!! Im so sorry that’s awful!! My friend hired a sleep coach and he said it was amazing and I was reading his notes and couldn’t understand what was wrong with it but it doesn’t allow you to leave a baby crying for longer than. 5 mins thank god and my girl cry’s like that when I make a bottle xx

I heard the same as Charley, that they don't actually settle they just know you won't come so they don't cry anymore. I'm so lucky our girl sleeps (relatively) well and we live in a small flat so I can be there in seconds if she cries but I know it must be so tough for some who don't want their baby to feel like they don't care. X

There’s lots of studies (supposedly) that show the cortisol in their brain stays high even when they’re ‘sleep trained’ and quiet, so although they no longer cry at night, they still wake up the same amount and feel the same level of stress, but they’ve adapted not to cry because they know their caregiver isn’t coming to support them and it’s safer to stay quiet (biologically speaking). I have no idea if there’s truth in that but I’ve heard it a lot and the thought of my baby being terrified into silence makes me want to cry, although only slightly more than the 1h sleep instalments I’m getting make me want to cry 😂😂😂 I have no judgement about those that do as they’re living their best lives while I’m slowly going mad on no sleep, but I’m too soft to try it in case the stuff about their stress levels is true

Many good comments here, there are various sleep training methods out there and the dangerous ones are definitely where you just let baby cry. Others also consider setting routines as sleep training. I would never do it to my baby, they need to know that they are safe to develop well. I read scientific studies about it and there is none imo that says it comes without those risks. We would not give medicine that is tested safe, so would not try any of those methods, especially when they clearly speak against nature and instinct. Nature did not wire us or the baby to just let them be alone. it is a stupid concept that social media tells us / babies should be self sufficient which is ridiculous. Maybe in a few thousand years, babies are not waking up to check in for safety anymore ;)

What i read is that the baby's prefrontal cortex,that is used for any emotional regulation,is ofc underdeveloped. So self regulation around a baby's age is a myth. And this doesn't get fully developed until age 25. I myself am emotionally dysregulated at times at my age so why would I expect it of my baby 😆