Naps &sleep

Ok, so baby is just turning 4 months old. For my sanity when she was a newborn, I started bed sharing with her, because she would only sleep when being held. This has worked, and still works brilliantly for us, but I'm now wanting to change things up a bit. She's currently exclusively breast fed, but I'm going to begin introducing combifeeding soon. She currently only likes to fall asleep with my nipple in her mouth! -So first question is how can I stop this? It's either crying until she falls asleep, or nipple. Refuses any dummy. When she stirs in the night she looks for me and will only nod off again once I've let her suckle again...so not sure how this will work in the next to me! - second question, is how can I harden her to transfers? She only likes to nap on us and wakes on any transfer. But won't fall asleep unless being held -Third question, is it better to start trying to put her down for naps in the next to me crib where she'll then stay at night for a few months? Or in her own room in her cot? Husband has been amazing and supportive, and is currently sleeping in the spare room. But I obviously want to bring him back and regain some normality. I just don't know the best way to move forward.

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Following for advice, my baby is exactly the same but only 7 weeks so would be good to know for The future

I can’t really say personally but I know my friend has had 3 children now and her first 2 they co slept like you for similar reasons until I think she said approx 2/3 year old until they understand that now it’s time to ‘be a big girl in your own bed’ she plans on doing it again with her 3rd… but I believe her husband works nights so it just works I suppose 😅

@Sharna yeah if it was just me and the baby I'd carry on, but I am also going to be going back to work in October when she's one, and I work 12 hour days. I need daddy to be able to put her to bed without me!

That makes more sense

Start by replacing one night feed with a bottle. Do nappy change beforehand and feed her in a chair, wind with dummy in (they still get burps out (and you will need to wind after bottle feeding)). Keep her upright for ten mins on you, but so you’ve almost fed/burped her to sleep, then do the transfer with dummy in. My daughter only took to the mam newborn dummies 0-6 months, if this helps. Also I feed between 4-5oz a feed if this helps and I feed every three hourly in the day (less overnight). I find she doesn’t cry for a feed this way

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