Sex after giving birth

I would speak to your midwife and gp first they need to examine you and make sure everything is healed. Your partner will just have to be patient for now x

I’m sorry but DO NOT do this unless you 100% want it, don’t let him pressure you if you’re not ready. It’s generally not recommended at all until past 6 weeks due to infection risk. If your partner is not understanding then quite frankly, and excuse my language, he can go fuck himself (sorry I feel very strongly about this and very prego 😅🫣)

Too soon, even if the outside is healed you have a huge wound inside you still that has a high infection risk

The internal wound is the size of a dinner plate. Even if YOU really wanted to, (His wants are irrelevant in my opinion as he’s not the one who’s just had a baby!) it is still not worth the infection risk!

You should really wait. you're externally healed but won't be healed fully inside. Sex could cause irritation and infection. Also, don't do it just because your partner wants sex. You have to be ready and want to do it yourself as well.

I agree with what Madeleine said. Tell him to go fuck himself. 2 weeks!!! 🤯 He needs to think of the person who just gave birth to his child not just his 2nd brain. Also be extremely aware that in those first weeks after delivery you are extremely fertile!! So many people get caught out and end up pregnant again when their bleeding hasn’t even stopped.

according to the NHS - there’s no longer a time frame on waiting for sex. each to their own! as long as you & your partner are aware of the risks, you both are willing to do the deed, then i don’t see the problem. i was ready to start getting back into action with my boyfriend 2 days after giving birth, i’m 17 days pp & plan on getting action soon because i am done waiting 🤣

You still have some internal healing that you need to do so as far as I'm aware there's a 6 weeks wait time before having sex and only after you've been checked that you've healed properly

Cervix is still open for 6 weeks and pelvic floor is weak so I personally wouldn't if you want to avoid long term health issues/infection 🤷🏻‍♀️ up to you though!

I had sex 4 weeks postpartum and i had 4 second degree tears which had healed in 2 weeks, if u feel comfortable and ready , ease into it is my best advice , nothing rough , it may not hurt during everyday activities but what i experienced was during sex certain angles hurt more than others so just find what works for you ! xx

I remember seeing a post on a Facebook group once where a girl said she was aware that the wait was recommended to be 6 weeks but she decided to ignore that and have sex sooner and she regretted it massively. It caused her lots of problems and she was making the post to warn other girls that may also be tempted to go against medical advice. I wouldn’t if I were you. The risks are too high this early on

I did a post about this too when I was 2-4 weeks pp for advise as we both want to resume. However it convinced me to wait the 6 weeks as the infection risk seems high and very unpleasant. Also, we did a little intimacy and some bleeding resumed which put meoff. I’m going to try wait for at least 4/5 weeks pp. ideally 6-8 weeks. I also had episiotomy and stitches. I thought I’d healed externally but interla is a dif matter x

All I see here is your partner wants to have sex… do you?

@Siobhan yes, I think a lot of posts imply that they do want to be intimate too. I think it’s just we have to accept and be aware of the consequences on our body verse partners.

I had sex about 5 weeks pp and was fine with my first however it wasn’t because my partner wanted too he would have waited however long. I did get pregnant 12 weeks pp too though 😅

@Madeleine exactly my thoughts and language!