The terrible twos
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Also I want to note, you're not trying to rationalize their feelings when they're in tantrum, they aren't going to understand. Just be there for them. Say things like I'm listening honey. I hear you. I'm here to keep you safe. You are safe here.
Thank you so much its such a hard age she was an amazing baby aswell it makes you question everything when they act that way iknow its normal for their age
Agree with everything Lisa said, we had similar issues just before my son was 2 and a half with hitting and kicking… stick with it, it’ll feel like it’s not working but I promise you it is. My sons 3 next month and the hitting is practically stopped now, it’s only if he gets into a proper state (which is very rare) that he’ll lash out now, it used to be multiple times a day over nothing and I was losing my mind 😞
This is nothing. You wait until they are nearly 3. That is a lot worse, trust me 😅
@Rosie thank you its nice to know your not the alone
@Rachel omg....some people say it should be easier because they communicate better
Mine started this behaviour around 18 months
I’m no expert but what has helped is learning some theories from Harvey Karp, he has some books and is a pediatrician - something along the lines of “matching their emotion” so they can see you understand what they’re going through. Also, validate validate validate the feelings. That does wonders too, keep your head up. You’re definitely not alone.
You need to be firm. Tantrums don't change the answer. If they are trying to hurt themselves, hold them. If they are trying to hurt you. Put them somewhere safe. The floor, or playpen. Tell them they don't have to like the answer, and that's okay, but it doesn't change anything. If you need to walk away for a minute to try to stay calm, go for it. To prevent tantrums from transitions out of the home, try giving a 15-10-5 minutes warning of going to leave somewhere. It's such a hard stage. I'm in it too. Sometimes going into a physically smaller room can help them too. That they need their emotions to "fill the room" and a smaller room helps make it not so big. 2 is hard, but it's a magical age of so much learning.