What’s wrong with me 😩

Have you spoken to your HV about this? Or mention it at your 6 week check? I think the feeling of loneliness is quite common, have you got other mum friends you can arrange to see? Or maybe some baby groups you can attend? If you are feeling really low it could be PND and you should definitely go and talk to someone xx

My doctor did check on my mental health at the check up as I have previous history of depression, but I must admit I played it down 😞 I haven’t been to any baby groups as it terrifies me if I’m honest. My two best friend’s babies are due anytime now so we will probably start going out together in the near future. Thank you for responding . X

I'm nearly 9 weeks and I've struggled massively with my mood. Not with the baby but with my partner and other people. He's in the army so he's away Monday- Friday and I'm on my own with my eldest (10) and my baby. I struggle with social anxiety, I have maybe 2 friends but both work and have older children, it's hard and ive struggled massively, sleep deprivation, the big change, not having the freedom I used to have with my 10 year old aswell! I think it's quite common. If you need to chat message me x

I know it’s hard but on the groups front I’d say it’s really worth having a go to expand your network, especially as often they’ll be based on age so you’ll meet other mums at a similar stage to you. It’s amazing your friends are having babies too but if they’re still due, you might be adding extra weeks onto you not being out unnecessarily. Maybe find some free drop ins to start with and build your confidence from there? I was terrified but it’s made a huge difference to our week having some sessions and activities that we go to independently of anyone else x

It’s definitely a big adjustment. I mourned my independence for a good few weeks after my little one was born, just desperate to do little things just for me. I also struggled with feeling like I wasn’t doing enough for her. But just know that you are doing absolutely everything you can for her and she adores you for it! All the little achievements that she makes, like smiling, babbling, gaining weight etc. is all down to you being the best mumma you can be for her🤍 I found that even just getting out for a walk every day helped me feel more calm as it was a change of scenery for both of us. I’d recommend giving baby groups a go, I’m a very nervous person in social situations but once I’d gotten through the first class, I now love going! I look at it as more opportunity to bond with my little one and that really helped me push through! If you want to chat at all, please feel free to message🤍 xxx

Speak to your HV, post natal depression requires support, hope you feel better soon

Ah I really wish you could’ve of been honest with your GP, although I know it’s not that easy. You could always book an appointment with the GP if you feel you need to, and may be a good idea if you have a history of depression. If you’re uncomfortable with mother and baby groups at the moment have you got anything you can go to that’s just for you? Without baby. I don’t really do the baby groups because other mums tend to drive me abit mad 🥴😂 but I play netball 2-3 times a week which is my release and really helps my mood.