Rage

I don't know what to do anymore. I never used to be one to get angry fast. Now, sometimes, I feel like it's the only ending. A good day ruined by rage. I try my best to stay calm with my kids, but they're crazy they get the more overwhelmed I get, and my brain just goes into fight mode. I feel like an awful mother. I never wanted to be a mom who would scream at her kids for being kids, but now i feel like that's all i do. My kids dont deserve this. I don't know how I got here. I don't know what to do.
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Just know you aren’t alone. Idk exactly what to say to be helpful, cause currently I’m hoping I’ll encounter a bear on our nighttime dog walk so I can take my rage out by bare knuckle boxing the bear.

Ok so I’m back, and can likely be more helpful! It sounds silly but reading / learning about the reality of childhood development & how kids brains work is so immensely helpful. (For understanding both our adult selves not able to regulate well, and for understanding kids) As for like in the moment things, grab ice cubes and hold them for as long as you can, then throw them as hard as you can (outside, into a tub or sink, or bucket idk) Try singing instead of yelling, even if it’s just the abc’s or whatever song comes to mind, or something completely made up. This is a list of very helpful books to consider checking out https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFyWbHyRGQB/?igsh=NTA1Nml1cWt6dHVp

Deep breaths too! I tend to take super over exaggerated breaths when I’m feeling ragey - looks and sounds silly but at least I know my daughter can see I’m trying to regulate myself haha and she knows I’m annoyed so she’ll usually back off from annoying me a bit! I also heard that doing some kind of movement can help dispel the rage, it needs to come out in some form so some type of movement could help so it doesn’t come out as shouting!xx

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