I feel like I can’t breathe…

oh my god i am so so sorry. that’s not a friend in the slightest, and he is not a man. you deserve so much better than that, and your kids do too. have you contacted her partner about it too? and do you have anywhere you can go?

I’m so sorry, that’s horrible 😟

i am fuming for you. i am so so so sorry this happened. this is the worst betrayal. i hope they both get what’s coming to them.

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I honestly don’t know what to do. My heart is just hurting. The out of my stomach is hurting. I don’t know how to tell her boyfriend.

Does your boyfriend and the girl know you know?

No I don’t think so

Well you can start by having the proof from the cameras if you save the recordings. He deserves to know Personally I’d plan a dinner with everyone and expose them that way so they can explain themselves That’s so fucked up. I’m so sorry 😿

I had my suspicions for a little while but I needed physical proof.

Omg girl! send him the video!

I would kindly send the video to her bf if you have his number. And let it all unravel from that point.

I would be planning and preparing to leave. Be sure you have a separate savings account he doesn't know of, you can be financially independent, prepare grounds to prove he is not very involved with the children, get proof also of his poor parenting and find a way to protect your children from all this. When you feel ready, meet your girlfriend's guy and show him proof.

id message him about it first and only send the video if he asks for it because otherwise i feel like it could take quite a mental toll on him too

message the other boyfriend & tell him. i would do it right away

If I were you I wouldn’t let them know that you know until you have a plan to get out. I’d be contacting family and calling a lawyer because maybe you don’t even have to be the one that leaves. You may be able to kick him out if you play your cards right. Im so sorry this happened to you

Secretly plan your escape. Women get offed by their spouse for leaving and humiliating them

Whoop that fucking ass!!!! Let her walk in, lock the door and take her chin.

I’m so sorry this has happened. Send the video to her bf (no mercy) he deserves to know then kick them both to the curb! You don’t need that kind of betrayal in your life, take out the trash!

I feel like everyone saying to just expose them recklessly are not giving you good advice I’m sorry. It’s totally an appealing outcome but not a smart one. You seriously need to get your ducks in a row. This is SERIOUS. You’re not married, his name is on your children’s birth certificates I’m assuming? I wouldn’t do anything rash until you know 100% that he cannot take your kids from you. And like someone else said women have been seriously harmed for way less. Please make sure you’re keeping yourself and children safe and doing what will benefit you in the long run and don’t just act on emotion

Get them together n cuss they asses out

Hi guys, thank you all for your supportive and generous comments. I am legit so heartbroken and sad. I genuinely feel so sick to my stomach. I see him trying to act like nothing is going on. It’s taking all of me to not react and confront them. But like a lot of you guys said I need to get things in order before doing anything. I’m going to start looking for an apartment so I can move out with my children or save enough so I can kick him out and have enough to cover his portion of the rent. But I’m in so much pain.

I am so incredibly sorry this is happening to you! You are absolutely making the right decision an I could only imagine how incredibly difficult that is! But please remember you are a queen and you deserve a man that will worship the ground you walk on! Hold your head up and remember that while protecting your baby’s 💚💚💚 I wish you peace and strength momma!!

I'm so sorry hun this is devastating, betral. I can't imagine what you are going through 💔 as other's have said. Get your evidence together, make a plan. Then expose them both! Can you not get him out of the house so you and your kids don't have to go?

I can’t imagine how hard it is what you’re going through but I’m so proud of you for being so strong and doing the smart thing. If you can, talk to a lawyer too

Update?? How are you doing ??

Hey guys, I’m mentally and emotionally drained. I’m stuck trying to figure out what’s my next move when it comes to them. I am focusing on saving as much as I can. I am looking for a roommate so can kick him out and have someone cover some of his portion of the rent. He had said before I found that he didn’t want to renew the lease and that he wanted us to go our separate ways.

Now he’s trying to back track and want to stay and when I tell him I’m good I’ll figure out he’s trying to switch it and blame me to not want to give out children that vision of both parents in the same household.

When it comes to her I genuinely don’t know what to do. We have a trip booked with our other best friend for the summer time and we been paying for it in installments. Now I don’t know if I want to go. But I feel bad because it’s for our other friends birthday. I don’t know if I should tell her the reason why. I genuinely do want to go on a trip and just get away from all of this but I definitely do not want to be around her. She makes me sick

This is why I’m so emotionally drained. I’ve been pretending like nothing wrong. And that I don’t know anything.

Don’t cave. You got this. If you don’t think you can stay in this apartment now would be a good time to call and apply for housing assistance to see if you qualify. As a single mother you should qualify! Keep pushing forward. Don’t let him manipulate you into thinking you’re ending something he already ended long ago. He is the cause of this relationship ending, not you.

He has been trying to be all nice as of late. I’ve been distancing myself from him. And I’ve been telling him that I would like for him to leave soon and now he’s saying that I’m wrong for trying to break up our family and not letting him be with our daughter.

I’m so scared to fully confront them. But it’s killing me.

Gaslighting you into believing “it’s you breaking up the family” when he cheated on you. Cute 🤬

I know it’s insane.

Hi guys, just an update. I confronted them. I went to her house, she tried to denied it and say it wasn’t like that but I had all the proof. I told her boyfriend. Her boyfriend told her whole family. And I told my bd family everything. I’m waiting on the approval of a new apartment. I feel horrible about this whole thing. I lost two people who I cared about so much. Why do I feel guilty for confronting them.

You did the right thing, you did nothing wrong, it’s easy to blame yourself but those were the 2 closest people to you, people who truly love and care about you don’t do this to you. You handled this much better than I would have.

Thank you for updating!! You got this! You did the right thing and have nothing to feel guilty about

It’s been so hard honestly, and after finally confronting him, I just been finding out so much more. And it’s just disappointing, disgusting, painful and just without words. And it’s like I just have came to the realization that I can’t even trust my own family anymore.

Like my own family have betrayed me with things even beyond words can describe or explain. And the fact that they just played me in my face and just truly believe that I’m just a weak person, that they can just disrespect me like that it’s beyond me. I am at the point that I don’t know how much I can take anymore

Just remember your kids need you. All will be okay. Just give it time

It's awful what you are going through. But please don't let this affect people like your family who love you. I've seen women who have had similar experiences cut everyone off because it's destroyed their trust. Give yourself time. My inbox if open if you need a chat.