I had an episiotomy with my first, and it was months, unfortunately. Sex hurt for years after, certain positions were a no go. Eventually it just got better but it took a very very long time. I had only a graze with my second and felt back to normal immediately. Urinating didn't even sting.
@Ash ugh this sucks to hear. Sorry you went through this!
@Paula I had a 2nd degree tear as well. It’s not painful but it does feel very sensitive to the touch and bleeds a tiny bit here and there. Sex is painful though! I’m going to try your suggestions!! Thank you.