My MIL calls my firstborn as “my baby”

My MIL calls my firstborn as “my baby” I have a 15 month old and a 3 week old. I conceived her when my firstborn was 5 months old. Ever since then I have been sick or exhausted and I could not spend as much time with my firstborn. During this time he grew a strong bond with his dad and completely forgot about me. Moreover now with my second baby I’m usually nursing her or expressing milk that I’m mostly in my room and I hardly get time to spend with my firstborn My MIL lives with us and he’s more closer to her than me. She continuously does things which annoy me and which we tell her not to do. But this is the most annoying thing. When I pass by the kitchen and he wants to come to me, she does not let him and says “nobody is there”. While singing the rhyme chubby cheeks, in the end she says “mumma’s pet , is that you? No no no”

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You have to set boundaries and remind her that your his mother. Talk to both your husband and his mother and tell them both how her comments make you feel, usually when people are called out for their behaviour they will most likely be so embarrassed they stop. Everyone is an adult and sometimes people ned reminding of that simple fact 😬

@Lavern she has been reminded and checked on the spot multiple times by my husband but she continues to do so all the more

Creepyyyy can she leave???

That’s weird. Family counseling!

Yhhh so basically she’s vindictive, obviously best option would be to kick her out but might not be an option for you ….Ask her wtf her problem is? And if you need to organise some psychiatric help for her behaviour /mental state lol

@Amy I wish. She’s been here since December and every day I wake up as if I have to go on a battle. My husband says she’ll leave soon, probably in April. But whenever she comes she’s here for months.

It's your house too, you and your husband decide when she comes and goes not her! State your boundaries and give them consequences - once you've set consequences, make sure you follow through.

I honestly wouldn’t let her! Why does she think she’s entailed to stay at your home for months? Xx

@Jodie @Amyit’s their family dynamics. I can’t say anything. It’s a tradition going on for years even before I got married. They live in a different country. And they say they are here to help 😭

Well you’ve started a new family now with your own family traditions which includes not having disrespectful extended family staying in your home for prolonged periods of time xx

I understand that, but you are his nuclear family now, and you get a say. Imagine if they had some other insane "family dynamic/tradition" that wouldn't be okay, do you still have to just because they call it that.. forever, families have made traditions that are basically boundary stomping and called them traditions, they do this to make sure they get away with it and so the person trying to stop the blatant boundary stomping looks bad for ending "family traditions"

My husband loved his family and wouldn’t leave them. I have tried multiple times.

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