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Yes 1st year post partum is HARD. You are recovering from birth, your hormones are all over the place. As a couple you adjusting to a new normal and having less 1:1 time together. As the Mother you are in constant demand from your baby who you love but would also love a moment. It’s overwhelming and arguments and stress are inevitable. Is there anyone you trust family wise who could come in on a weekend maybe or a weekday or relieve you for a few hours. So you can either have alone time Or you can both go and grab a coffee together. You guys will make it through. Just remember you are in a season and it will take time to adapt.
Oh girl, yes. My baby is 17 months and I feel like we just turned a corner a month or so ago. Things got bad, we "broke up" for about 2 weeks, we got into a huge fight and I left with our daughter last summer. We used to throw around the "im done with this relationship" thing a lot to. Its so so so tough and I just want to really emphasize how emotionally draining it is to have an infant AND be struggling in your relationship. Its INCREDIBLY common. That being said- nothing will change until you both are ready and willing to communicate and compromise. I highly recommend the book "Fight Right" read it together when baby is sleeping if possible. A chapter or two a night or pick one night to bang out a few chapters. Read it out loud and pause to discuss and reflect. Every couple fights but if you can do it productively it's a game changer.
Honestly if a couple say they have not argued since having a bsby i will find it hard to beleive- we argue a lot too its normal- sleep deprived try a date night once a month can be going for lunch or dinner and let someone have the bubba