Curious to know peoples views..

I don’t care if my partner watches porn, I need to watch porn to get off when I have sex with him

I just feel like my partner should be able to wait whiles I’m healing without wanting to watch porn. He feels the same way about me it’s just our morals. I’ll definitely be mad if I found my man watching porn but that’s just me

@Justina he never rushed me or pressured me into sex after the baby. Labour was very difficult and he has been very good. I just know hes been missing the intimacy outside of cuddles and kissing but he is having to do take care of things on his own but at least no one else is involved

I totally understand and I never said he did . That’s why I added it’s morals for our family

It’s disrespectful to the other half, because why would they need to feel they need to watch or see another person naked, or doing anything of that sort… personally I don’t agree with watching it, why do they need to cum over another woman? when it should only be the woman they are with and love…

I’ve never understood this either. Porn is absolutely fine in my relationship even before we had the baby. It’s literally just fantasy and entertainment to us.

@Justina please dont think i came across the wrong way! I was only explaining not berating. Sorry it cane across in the wrong way

We both watch porn so I don’t mind it at all 😊

Never bothered me as long as he doesn’t get addicted and use it rather than have sex with me it’s cool

Absolutely do not care that my partner watches it. That’s his own business! I’m always his first option though and I’m not always down for sex so if he needs to relieve himself who am I to stop him! I think other people struggle because their men have an actual addiction to it and/or they’re not initiating it with them at all but getting off elsewhere without making the effort to have sex with their wifey. I can never see it as cheating though. That’s weird af Its like saying you’re cheating if you’re watching a sex scene in a movie Makes no sense

I personally dont like watching it myself, but my husband has ever since he was a teen, it never bothered me at te start as long as we still had our intimate moments, but pur time together quickly decrease and i worked out that he found it easier to go to the bathroom and watch porn insted of being intimate while i was asleep or at work ect We quickly realised he had a porn addiction, and it was becoming an everyday self release situation, then wasn't in the mood to do it with me.

I fell into a depression/self hate thinking it was how i looked and that he was no longer interested in me. After a few discussions on divorce and me leaving if it dosent improve ( i felt awful and didnt want to be in a relashionship that i didnt feel loved and definently didnt want to bring my son up in a household that felt more like roommates then a marrage) the decision to ban porn was put in place we did speak about allowing it while i was on my period or away for a while visiting family if he couldnt join but in the end he hasnt used porn since And our relationship has been great ever since

I agree, I wouldn’t care either way 🤷🏻‍♀️♥️

I'm not too fussed about it, but I think that could be because we've both hinted that we watch it but we aren't sloppy with it, or discuss it much. Also my body is mine and his body is his- what we choose to do with it (in the confinement of a committed relationship) is up to us. The only time I'd be concerned if it affected and got in the way/took away from our sex life. X

I never understand the whole “I’d rather he watch that than be with someone else”. Porn won’t stop cheating lol and you can not watch it and not cheat. I don’t agree with it I find it disrespectful and you can have self control and wait to be intimate.

Possibly to do with how they’ve been raised? These often made out to be as a banned and taboo topic in a lot of traditional households. But time has changed, and we’re now more open to talking about sex, but obviously there are still those with traditional values, and/or religious beliefs on them around. Just each to their own, just have to not force your own beliefs down others’ throats, which they tend to do. And they would condemn you for it. Personally, I watch them to but def not as often anymore since we have children. My partner now mostly watch my photos/videos if I say no, and/or not home.

I watch it, he actually doesn’t watch it as much as me. We are comfortable enough that if one of us isn’t in the mood, the other can get off and not feel guilty about it. I usually don’t watch it with him bc at that point we would just be together but I would have no issues.