Pre school drama
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I would probably look into a new daycare/preschool if I was you. My child loves her teacher and almost always runs into her classroom. When she moved up into her new room, the first week was hard bc she didn’t know anyone. There’s days where she’s overtired or something and she clings to me. But 99% she’s very happy and wants to be there. Accidents and bruises happen, they’re 2, but it shouldn’t be daily. Our old daycare was terrible and she fought me a lot going in. She was also constantly sick. Switching daycares really helped with all of it.
I did think about it as when I chose her school I actually did not look around and applied for the one that was close to me. I get a bit of anxiety sometimes and I’m not sure how to bring it up to the teachers without offending them.. as I’m sure they try the best they can. It just breaks my heart seeing her like this. I’ve always been a very attentive mum so it’s hard for me to relax a bit when he comes to this stuff. Especially does not help that everyone says it’s normal am I should give her a chance there. It’s not been very long since she started but I worry a lot. I’ve never seen her not happy to go anywhere. It’s especially worse now because she mentioned to her dad when we were all walking home from the school together that she’s being pushed by other kids. She’s mentioned this before but she’s very small and no one’s told me about any incidents. Thank you all for responding I appreciate it
And she was willing and very happy to go at first. She got an eye infection from another child there that recently had it. she was off for a week and that was awful for her. Since then she’s been hurt almost every time I’ve got her and this is when she started not wanting to go.. they even been asking me to collect her early as she gets so upset at times
I get her 15 mins before everyone else but at least once a week I’ve been asked to get her a hour or so before even then. Sorry for the rant but I don’t have any mum friends that I scan ask for advice from and I’m 22 so I get anxiety about judgment from others. I just really want to be a good mum and not let her down
Im super anxious too, so I get it. How long has she been there? It does take a few weeks for them to get used to it.
Hiii, former childcare provider here. It's pretty common for the LO's to feel this way actually especially if she's recently started. & this guilt feeling you're having is totally normal too :/ sending virtual hugs!! things I use to ask the parents were to -try your best to keep the same morning routine with your LO at home before drop off (try not to rush) -have a family picture for her to keep in her cubby 💜(preferably a copy so the original photo doesn't get damaged) -favorite blanket (one that you're willing to let her take to school) -mommas old tshirt/scarf with your scent/perfume on it (for her to sniff and hug) 🤗 -have a "see you later" secret handshake 🤝 -plan something special to do with her afterschool @ home. Could be making dessert together, taking out the trash together, feeding a pet (keep it simple, something that she already does at home) -positive reinforcement (do your best to reassure her that she's in a safe place and that someone will be there to pick her up)
As for the school... ask the teachers and/or directors (if you haven't already) what they can do to help you and your lil' mamas. Can a teacher meet you down the hall to do a quiet hand off? This scenario may not always be available because of ratio. But the teacher should have a plan on how to help transition your baby girl 💕 I use to remind my parents that it takes an adult about 30 days to get use a new routine in their lives, Imagine the little ones? So much change is happening to them and the staff SHOULD be understanding and trying to help you and your baby girl. If you haven't already, get a hold of their licensing number and look them up on your states licensing website to see what kind of citations that school has had in the past. You'll see any red flags there. The number should be posted in the office, somewhere visible. If not, ask for it. Ask how long have your daughter's teachers have worked there and voice your concerns.
Toddlers are creatures of habits, they thrive off of routine and become trusting and confident with themselves. Keep the same routine during drop offs, you might just have to get there a little earlier than usual to help her transition. Call every so often or if the school has an app ask for pictures of your baby girl! I have soooo much more advice on how to make your baby girl feel safe and happy about school. Feel free to message me for more information! I hope this helps out a little 🫶🏻
Omg I can’t thank you all enough for the wonderful support and advice. I’m so grateful there are lovey people on this app and I will try all of these things! She’s only been there a month so not very long…She goes 2 full days and a half day a week. Praying she settles in okay and I will keep trying my best to support her transition. Thank you all so much again it’s so lovey to have some reassurance and positive new looks ☺️
She’s back tomorrow for world book day and gets to go in pjs and I’m at work so let’s hope tomorrow will be better than the last 🤞🏻
It should hopefully be an enjoyable day for her!
🤞🏻fingers crossed
Is it only Tuesdays and Thursdays that she goes? I've never heard of preschools that offer 2 1/2 days.
Yes I’m in the uk though
🙁 If she was happy and keen to go but then after the incidents reports resulting in “massive bruises and scrapes”, she’s crying about going, I’m sure that’s the direct link (and that makes total sense for her to not want to go somewhere she keeps getting hurt). Have you thought about changing preschools or homeschooling her? We’re not there yet but if I was in your situation I’d pull her.