Hormones and emotions

It’s completely normal! I’ve hit a weak point around 5/6/7 days pp and cried for no reason. Saturday night was day 10 pp and I lost it when we went to bed and cried in the bathroom for a good 10/15 mins as I got frustrated with my partner, but we have to do it together even though we’re both knackered and still adjusting. But it will get better and it’s all worth it for the little one! If you need a chat please message me, day or night x

I dont know if this helps: I had a c section 8 days ago, and the first few days, I struggled to build a bond with my daughter. I would look at her and not feel that overwhelming love that everyone tells about. I felt horrible, a terrible mother, I felt like I failed my daughter.. my partner/her father was just perfect with her in every possible way, while I struggled with the simplest tasks. I'd silently cried my heart out several times. I couldn't bear to see how natural it was for him to take care of and love her. Then something suddenly clicked, and there she was... my beautiful baby girl, who accompanied me everywhere for 9 months, who kicked me in response to my voice.. there she was, my daughter. And this wave of unconditional love just hit me all at once. I had been through traumatic surgery, and the aftermath was a thousand times worse. I just needed to accept it and be kind to myself and give myself credit for what I went through in order to come to terms with motherhood. Be kind to yourself, love!!

Honestly I’m completely with you on this, I’m 4 days pp and my emotions are all over the place too. Every morning I sob and every evening/night time I also sob. I watch my birth video and just cry while staring at my baby😩 I would love to say it gets better but I honestly feel like this is gonna last forever, the love I have for her is overwhelming I can’t explain it, and I don’t want to get anything wrong cos she’s so sweet and innocent ugh idk it causes so much anxiety, your not alone xx

@Pauli @Sara yeah I've just sobbed and sobbed, I feel like a terrible mother and I don't know why ... I'm struggling to adjust to the massive change and I think I feel guilty.

I think this is totally normal because I'm the exact same. I almost feel clueless as to what I should be doing too. My own mum and MIL are cooing over my baby and I almost feel like it's hard for myself to have that attachment and desire to do the same. It's all because of this massive change and adjustment and I'm sure it will just take us time xx

It is a big change, there’s no point denying that but honestly once your emotions balance out it’s beautiful and you will forget about all the tears and sleepless nights! I know I’m only a day ahead of you but everyone bounces back differently and some may need longer, but it will get better and you will smash being a mum!

I’m 3 weeks postpartum now, I felt the exact same! The first 2 weeks I felt the lowest I’ve ever felt in my life.. I felt like I wasn’t bonding with my baby either because I was struggling so much with not enjoying being a Mum and feeling guilty for everything I felt! I know it’s so hard when people say oh it gets better but honestly it really does get better.. our hormones are surging and it’s such a huge adjustment! I would say literally the last 2/3 days I’ve felt an improvement in my mood, once the hormones level out you should start to feel better and can start to enjoy it a bit more! Feel free to message if you need to, always happy to chat xx

thank you all for your help xx

I was the exact same for 2 weeks, 4 weeks in now and I still cry fairly regularly for one reason or another! I found the end of the afternoon particularly hard, and it coincides with a hormone dip, although it’s easier now it’s getting lighter later, so just know that if that’s when the tougher times come, it’s completely normal!

I felt exactly the same too, for the first week and a half my emotions were up and down constantly! Once I started to get a bit more sleep (sleeping when baby sleeps during the day) it really improved though, I don’t think being sleep deprived helps

I have found I get the "night-time scaries" but I have no reason to, but as soon as it gets dark the anxiety sets in.