in November 2021 Babies 🇬🇧

Pre school refusal

My daughter moved up to pre school four weeks ago in the nursery (shes been in since 9months) and every single morning since she goes to bits when she asks if she has pre school or i tell her we’re getting ready for pre school. She cries saying she doesnt want to go. Day in day out. Every morning i come away from drop off emotionally drained not knowing how to handle it and what to do better to make it all better. They tell me she has a good day there. It’s really really effecting me and making me really really down atm. She goes four days a week as thats what i work. I’m honestly at the end of my tether. I dread waking up in the morning to her and the whole ordeal i have to go through😔

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My girl was like that but she stopped as soon as she was in nursery but now she doesn’t cry going in half the time she’s first in

We are exactly the same but with nursery 🙈 it's literally making me ill and has caused a major flare up of a skin condition I have. We dropper him down to just afternoons as I'm on maternity leave and it's still no better. We're seriously considering completely pulling him. We also get just the worst behaviour after he comes home, like a different child!

I’m sorry but maybe you need to understand why she is crying? What is the reason? Are they putting up activities and updates on a portal? When they give feedback at the end is it detailed? Is she eating there okay? These are questions I would raise with the director.. maybe find out more and find out about her key worker how she interacts? If it’s causing too much in daily life maybe go in to observe as well for a few hours and see if she is clingy with you or if she interacts normally with other babies!? There’s always more to it when they are upset and not settling.. that’s my opinion based on working with children as well x

I’m a mum of a 3 yr old who goes to Preschool and I am also a Preschool teacher. I know from both perspectives how hard it is to hear when you are in the thick of how you are feeling BUT the chances are is that once she’s in there she probably is having a good day like the teachers say🥰 just give it a little bit more time, re evaluate how she is by the end of the term but she’ll probably be happier going in by then x

My little boy was the exact same when he moved to the preschool room from tots room. I think for him it was just that he was getting used to the new room, teachers and children. As someone who works in a preschool, the daily running of the room becomes a little more structured as they get older to help before they go to school. It could be that she needs a little more time to adjust ☺️ Maybe see what she really enjoys doing at school and talk about it with her in the mornings, ask her if she could draw you picture for when you collect her etc .Likewise it could be something else altogether like not getting along with a certain child - ask the teachers to keep an extra eye out for stuff like that too. Hope it gets easier for you both x

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