Second time mum sadness?
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Ah, I'm feeling the same! I'm scared I'm going to miss my little girl when baby bro comes along 😭
Yes, I’d be surprised if anyone doesn’t feel at least a little like this
i get sad over this all the time, especially when me and my son (3 and a half) have a cuddle and i just think it’s not even about me, his entire world is going to change, all he knows is going to be flipped around, from having a new sibling to then starting school in September, and j just think it won’t ever be just us anymore. i’m so excited for the next chapter but it is terrifying. i am hopeful though! i have a friend who has a 4 year old, and then she had another around 10 months ago. when she was pregnant, she would voice note me many times or talk to me a lot on play dates about the fear, and the guilt for her first born and she would cry. but then she had her second, and she told me she doesn’t know why she was so worried and how it was a lot easier and better than she thought it would be, and that’s given me a lot of reassurance that we will adjust quickly and start our family of four life 🩵
From someone who is having number 3, I felt a lot of this and remember thinking how will I love another baby as much as my first but they are a new fun little person to get to know, my boys are both so different to each other and we have different relationships with each other but I love having both of them and when my eldest went to school I then had time with my little one like I did with the oldest. It is different but I loved watching them with each other and even though they fight now (they are 15 and 12) they loved having each other there all the time. Im actually sad that we will be having this baby so much later and he won’t have siblings to grow up with in the same way that my eldest two did as they are much older
i’m in the same boat, my little one is 3 and she’s been the centre of our attention her whole life and i’m worried how she’s going to take on sharing us with her sister. i’ve been reading up on how to make it easier on her and i’ll try and make a day a week where she either has myself or her dad to herself for a bit, but idk it’s one of those things you just have to make do with when it happens🥲
YES!! My girl is 2 today and I was awake crying my eyes out at 2am because of this 🥹 wonder if a lot is hormone related too? Felt at a loose end about it all the way through, so grateful to be having another little girl, but can’t fathom how life is about to change all over again x
Thank you all for sharing how you feel the same, it makes it a lot easier. I felt so guilty for thinking like that but I’m glad to know it’s completely normal
you’re not alone ❤️❤️ feel exactly this way. my friend recommended this book called the the second baby book by sarah ockwell-smith and it’s really helped me with some of the anxiety i feel about flipping my first borns life with a second baby. kinda just helps validate our feelings and let me know that it’s normal to feel this way but it will be okay. 🥹🥹
Yes I thought this today, but my first will always be my baby! I just think how much he’ll love having a playmate and how fun it will be for them to have each other plus I’m excited about having a sleepy cuddly newborn again.