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3 months old is so rough. literally the trenches especially when they hit that sleep regression. it seriously is the phase that ur in rn and most couples go through this when they have a baby for the first time. i know i felt unsupported sometimes but turned out my partner felt the same way and we were both just completely exhausted and taking it out on each other. it does get better around 6 months old! baby sleeps better and u start to feel somewhat normal again. try not to make any big life changes rn like splitting up because im sure after u get over this bump you’ll realize u were both just tired and adjusting to having a baby and once u get back to normal (or ur new normal) u will be happy you stayed together. good luck 🤍 it does get better i promise

I’m autistic with adhd and it is such a big pet peeve of mine when people weaponize their nuerodivigence to be abusive to people. It sounds like it’s time for a divorce. Because you are human. You should be able to express all your emotions!!! And he should support all of your emotions!! You deserve way better!! Your baby deserve better!!

Hi love, I'm sorry your going through this. Are you a believer? Sometimes we just need healing. And sometimes we just need some rest. Is there someone safe you can reach out too? A older women that can pray with you and maybe help you out a bit? I don't think divorce is an answer. If you would like I can pray with you. Private message me if you'd like.

He doesn't sound like a loving or supportive husband. That's hard, especially with a 3 m old. He has no hope for your relationship? Wow. That's a horrible thing to say. Do you have someone else to stay with for a little bit to get some rest and let things settle for a bit? I think some space and time might bring some needed clarity and peace. Do whatever you need to get peace for you and you baby ❤️. I'm sorry you are going through this. Good luck mama!

And being bipolar and ADHD is not a good reason to treat you like shit. It's hard to find accept the love we deserve for us but we definitely need to fight to give it to our babies. Be strong mama!

I can help o think I’m like ur husband lol have all those issues it’s hard for us on the daily

Hey love, from a Christian perspective (not sure if you’re a believer or not) but the enemy always attacks the man because he is suppose to be the head of the home (the protector) as he hates family and only wants to come and destroy. Watch WAR ROOM - Alex Kendrick the movie if it’s the last thing you do, it teaches us to fight with prayer rather than with the person ❤️🤍

@Ana Would you agree leaving him in this time would be wrong? He's probably struggling too. I'm sure he doesn't mean to treat her bad. Satan wants us to be separate. I let bitterness settle in my heart during these fragile months after bringing baby home. I forgave my husband repented of bitterness (when my baby turned 1) We are 15 years married now and it only gets better. ❤️ You have to choose to be for each other. Put your trust in God. There is nothing impossible for Him. 🙌🏻 I promise it gets better. Choose to love each other. 💞

@Leya M thank you. I really appreciate it. Leaving him is not an option! I’m just looking for healthy ways to go through our issues! We have talked about getting closer to god and finding a good church where we can have support❤️ I appreciate the advice

I'm so happy you love each other and want to work it out. God sees your heart and he will help you. 🥰 If you ever fine it hard leaving home and would like to just begin studying scripture at home I can connect you to my mentor she's a beautiful momma with lots of wisdom. She finished theology and has a beautiful heart for other mommas ❤️

@Leya M id love that:)

Because your incognito I can't message you privately, you'd probably have to message me. 🥰 Back...when I tried to reach out for help, a lot of my family turned angry at my husband. They told me to call the cops on him and stuff. There was only one lady from my circle of ladies that heard my concerns and instead of being negative said, "His stubbornness is a really great quality" and it just blew my mind. lol I was able to see him in a different perspective. And glory to God!!! We worked it out! Marriage is tough, parenting is tough, but God will help you and bless you. It gets better and it gets so so good! ❤️

@Leya M I’m interested on that statement why was stubbornness a good quality? Thank you!

@Melisa This was a main concern my relatives had regarding my husband. He was completely stubborn and it annoyed everyone. He didn't care what anyone thought. In my relatives eyes it was such a negative quality. A family friend visited me after having my baby. We talked about my emotions, and my life...and she was very positive. She mentioned that for a man to be stubborn is a very good quality. He is very firm which will make him a great leader for our family. My mindset toward him completely shifted and I began to view his stubbornness differently. I also began to act smarter as I understood his stubbornness. And now I pray God leads him, so he can lead us well.