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We do gentle parenting too. I read this book a while back, it helps you work out what your triggers are and methods for avoiding those triggers. It’s not really your children’s fault that you’re getting angry, are you tired? Are you trying to do too many things at once etc? Are you looking at your phone and getting angry because they’ve interrupted you? https://amzn.eu/d/gEeCnrX
Another vote here for gentle parenting and just to reiterate what @Natalie said, DO NOT get it confused with permissive parenting as so many people think it’s the same thing and that’s why gentle parenting gets such a bad rep. My daughter is 5, at parents evening last week her teacher was telling us how she has amazing self regulation and if feeling overwhelmed will do breathing exercises, can communicate her feelings by using the colours from Colour Monster book, she regularly asks her classmates if they’re feeling xyz, zero meltdowns and I can count on a hand how many she has had since she was 3, has a great imagination and understands about taking turns, does not fuss if told “no” about anything. A lot of parenting became easier for me when I understood their brains aren’t developed yet so trying to punish them for doing what comes naturally to them is silly. If you work with your kids, they want to help you. Another good book: How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids
So as a registered social worker studies have shown that an authoritarian parental style is the most effective for children’s healthy development; children need rules & love to thrive :) hope this helps
@Jordana🦋 I think you have a typo and meant authoritative and not authoritarian 😊 We also use gentle parenting (sometimes also called punishment free parenting or just authoritative parenting). Some good online resources are Nurtured First and Dr. Becky/Good Inside.
Hi all - just on the back of the above advice, has anyone followed the triple p online course to help with gentle parenting? My son is 3, is it ever too late to start a different style - will it help with his behaviours.
I personally like gentle parenting (not to be confused with permissive parenting) which I mix with some attachment parenting as that means you comfort them, help coregulate their emotions etc but set boundaries. I let my daughter be quite independent but give help if she needs or asks for it. I give her a chance to do it herself if she believes she can (unless it's dangerous). She is 2.5 now.