does anyone experience this before with their family

I don't understand why my family get on to and shame me for while I'm recovering from substance and their doing substance, makes me feel like I need to just distance myself from them till my kids turn adults. No one deserves treated like this, family don't shame other family members, gossip, drama, chaos, violence, mistreated and watch family members struggle, family need to be nonjudgmental and none of those also^^ be there help each other out, be a listen ear and have each other's back no matter what through rough and happy times. Just hurts I have to watch what I say to them because they can twist and ruin my life more, I don't have no family to count on besides my own family that I created hurts so much I want to cry... I like to hear y'all opinions and advice on my post please.

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First, I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. In my personal experience, I was always the black sheep of the family. Mainly, because my biological mom was and they transferred that to me. It wasn't until I met my husband that they toned down certain things. But when my husband began to open me to new experiences, they went back to their old ways. Calling me lazy and spoiled, but then asking me to ask my husband (bf at the time) for money (he was an OTR truck driver). Telling me that the relationship was temporary and that I'm a fool. I could go on and on Looking back now, I feel like a lot of it was jealousy. My mom (cousin who adopted me) never told me she was proud of me until I had my son, which I thought was weird and had me feeling empty. The last time I spoke to my family was shortly after my son's 1st birthday. He's 7 now and I have no regrets. I choose peace over chaos, and my family unit is better for it. My advice would be to choose peace, for your sanity and for the family that you created ❤️

@Jaleasa I'm sorry to hear all that happened ^ your husband was wrong of treating you like that it seemed like one sided, your mom should always be there no matter what, that's true agree to that choosing peace ✌️🕊️ over then chaos, I tried for so long to keep in contact with my family then there was so many family problems so many, then if I stopped contacting them they will find a way to try to contact me. I told my bf about how I feel about my family he told me I should contact them once in awhile to let them know I'm alive so they won't report me with dcf and report that I'm missing, then I told my bf nah what's the point? Their just going to stay the same, judge, shame talk to me, argue, chaos, violence and gossip drama. I'm 29, I don't see no change in my family and they are all older siblings, another reason I want to lose contact cuz I don't want to be triggered when I see and hear they are doing their substance makes me want to relapse on my substance that I'm still recovering from.

@anamaria I think you may have misread, my husband didn't do anything wrong, never treated me unkind and had always been my rock! I've tried with my family as well. You just gotta do what's best for you and your family. Especially if their behaviors are triggering for you. Sending love ❤️

@Jaleasa I'm sorry that I misread your comment, that's good you have support on your side, that's true, thank you for your opinion and your advice 🤗❤️

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