Toxic MIL
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I don’t let my lo around mine, maybe every once in a while but she came into my room while I was in labor when I told her not to, I’d just lay down the boundaries and if she doesn’t respect them then I’d tell her to leave idc how far she travels
While I was pregnant my husbands mum said she won’t love the baby because the name I chose isn’t what she wanted 🤮yuck behaviour. However her and my husband’s sisters wanted to see my son when he was first born he had to go special care because he has trauma to his head so I let them come because I felt like my husband just wanted everyone to know he has a baby and was just excited about him. His mum came and started saying my son looks like a poof (meaning gay) and that night I just cried after they left because I knew I shouldn’t have let her in but I did and I felt disgusted that those were her first words to her first grandchild. I think it she treats you bad and everyone else bad. It’s best to distance. There is no benefit for your son if she’s just treating everyone bad like what is she gonna do treat your son bad aswell? I think she shouldn’t deserve to see him if she’s manipulative and toxic.
mine has constantly disrespected me time and time again, speaking badly about me to everyone including to me, it got to a point that i stopped coming around with my son. after a couple months of that, she had my partner ask me if we could drop him off and leave him there for a few hours so she could have some time with him, i declined and she texted me the NASTIEST message. all i responded was that if she can’t put her hatered aside and respect me as my son’s mother than i can’t allow her to have a relationship with him, she straight up told me she wasn’t going to do that as she didn’t want to compromise with me and that is entirely her choice, not mine. maybe test the waters and let her come meet him, if she does anything out of pocket to you or your child, make it clear you will not tolerate that and set boundaries, if she doesn’t want to respect your boundaries then thats too bad for her
Don’t. If your husband is ok with it then distance yourselves. Or just let her have the visit and know they will be far and few between. I’ve learned if I don’t push for a connection with my kids and some family they will never have that connection and it’s for the best.