Family bs

I’m so tired of my unsupportive family. Idk how many times I’ve cried and stressed during this pregnancy but I’m just sick and tired of being sick and tired. If not the thought of my distant brother, there’s my unsupportive sister & mother and now father . From the beginning of this pregnancy I’ve felt alone and had to lean on my man , whom I am super grateful for but a mama needs her family you know. Every attempted conversation with my mother and sister has been negative and it’s truly made me feel that maybe if I weren’t pregnant it would be better. With this being our first child my man and I ofcourse wanted to have a shower to share this moment with our families despite the distance and lack of support. I’m 7 months now and while I get people have their own lives nobody could contribute anything? Not even a shoulder to cry on when needed. My baby shower is approaching next month and from a young age I’ve always had this “I’ll figure it out on my own” mentality and just ONEEEE TIME I ask and seek help because shame me for needing anything it’s such a problem. My man works hard and I appreciate all that he does however if it take a village to raise a child where tf is the village . With my man and I spending so much money already , I asked my father for a few dollars ( not even a specific amount) but just asked for his help if he could .. THIS MF TELLS ME OUT HIS MOUTH THAT HE DONT BELIEVE IN HELPING FOR ANOTHER MANS CHILD. HE’S PAID HIS DUES WHEN PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR ME AND THATS ALL HE CAN DO . . NOT TO MENTION AT THE TIME HAVING TO LITERALLY FIGHT MY MOTHER FOR MY CHILD SUPPORT MONEY at that time . Like I’m just so tired . I can’t believe he even said that . Like as my child’s grandfather and grandmother, aunt , uncle , etc you should just want to be there and be of assistance in any way . Yes I need help financially but again I’m gonna figure it out like I always do but this shit is so wack . I don’t want to have this shower anymore and I want people to stay far tf away from me Sorry for this rant I’m advance for whoever reads this .
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I'm so sorry you feel like this!! Having unsupportive family is the worst & something I could never imagine! However the way you seemed to have carried yourself speaks volumes about who you are as a person and also who they are if they are not willing to help!! Myself personally I would rather struggle and say we did it on our own than giving people who don't want to bother the satisfaction of saying I helped and I did this and that etc if that makes sense! I don't have any advice on this but I really hope it doesn't stress you out too much longer! The worry of becoming a first time mum is daunting enough let alone doing it without family! Sending you lots of love 🤍

I am so sorry, I feel like I could have written this myself so unfortunately I have no advice. I just hope it gets better, I’ve learnt to not care anymore but I know it’s hard x

I appreciate the kind words ladies , I’m just super overwhelmed. I cried so hard all night . I’ve been having this not caring attitude for so long it’s exhausting . I’ve been doing it on my own for so long as a child into my adult years I don’t even want to wear that strong crown anymore . How strong do I need to be . Although I feel how I do I will indeed figure it out

Your emotions are completely valid! You're pregnant and hormonal! Anything can set us off!! It's okay to break down! You don't need to be a strong woman all the time it's okay to cry! 🤍

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