toxic mother
we lost my grandmother two weeks ago and my mother has done nothing but cause me so much stress.
I’m now 24 weeks pregnant but these last two weeks, she’s been constantly going on about a will snd how she’s gonna get nothing and how it’s not fair and it’s causing me so much stress and isn’t even allowing me to grief properly because of how she’s acting. It’s making me sick.
Today my grandmother got cremated and I am meant to be seeing her but we’ve argued all day and I don’t have the energy too. She moans and moans at me and makes me feel bad that she’s alone even though she’s told all her friends she wants to be alone today even though they were meant to be seeing her.
She wants me to go see her to go to the pub so she can have a drink and I don’t want to go to the pub because I am exhausted, I’d much rather be at home than in a place full of drunk people ! She even wants me to pay?? I can’t cope. I’m fed up, I have a horrible headache and I don’t know what to do.
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I would cut ties with her for your own sanity.
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. Parents can be so selfish sometimes can't they? I love my mum to bits, but she has definitely contributed to my anxiety during my pregnancy which I'm less than impressed with. I think the best thing you can do is pull back a little. Not only do you need the time to grieve, but you have a growing baby to take care of on top of your own mental health. I keep telling myself that I'm not here to be someone else's emotional regulation, especially when they've had far more time on this planet to sort themselves out. I think a will should be the least of her concerns and more the fact that someone has lost their life should take priority. Lonely people don't often realise how much stress they place on others but, again, it's not your responsibility, especially at a time like this. Arguing with you when you're already exhausted is hardly an effective way to keep you around. Give yourself some grace and time!